Being told that as a size 18 I can’t wear certain clothes

[isaidmaybeyoure]

I do appreciate that when posting canvassing for opinions on outfits etc., you will get all sorts of responses.

But I have been told a few times now that as a size 18, I should cover up and not expose too much skin, basically purely because of my size.

AIBU to think this isn’t okay? I have as much a right to get my shoulders out as any other size!

I was a size 18/20 last Summer. I wore what I want.

What I don't like on any person are too small, too tight and too ill-fitting clothes. They look awful regardless of your size.

And some people just don't have a dress sense at all, again, it doesn't matter the size.

But for some people, whether they think it’s suitable or not will depend on your size. Accept their opinion, you don’t have to like it and wear what you want.

Also a size 18, I wear whatever I like (including crocs 😉)

This causes me so many issues when clothes shopping. I'm a 16-18 and have very small boob's for my weight (I was completely flat when slim). Every "curve" range is designed for women with big boob's so doesn't suit me at all. But clothes designed for flatter chested women also presume they're slim. Its so hard.

Point being you cant assume anything just by hearing a size. There's a lot more to it.

I agree. And it’s not helpful to blow smoke up the arse of posters. Not everything looks good on everyone, and yes, fat people can’t get away with wearing many of the things thin people can.

That might not matter a jot to some (and good luck to them), but it does to many.

Look in the mirror and if you think you look fine then thats how you should judge. And if you're not sure ask a friend.

Not if the opinion is not asked for which I’m fairly sure is what op means. Absolutely no one has the right to tell others what to wear.

The point is though that even if they say, ‘you can’t wear that’, you still can. It’s just an opinion. People are oversensitive.

It doesn’t warrant nasty and uncalled for comments. I didn’t ask for opinions on how it would look on my body

I'm a size 18 and tbh my shoulders are probably one of the best parts of me! Boobs wise tops are an absolute nightmare, I'm an F cup, usually too much "space" left in size 18 tops, (have to be very selective when choosing vest tops for this reason), unless they have buttons, then I usually need a size 20 to get the chest buttons to not gape. I've always wondered exactly what size boobs size 18 women are "supposed" to have!

People should be able to wear what they want but of course, people will have an opinion if you're asking for opinions.

Welcome to the cesspit internet. Unfortunately, not everyone is kind.

So if you didn't ask for an opinion of how a piece of clothing would look on your body, what were you asking for exactly @isaidmaybeyoure ?!!!

If I asked and someone said something like “I don’t think that suits you”, fine. But i didn’t.

As long as the clothes you are wearing fit you then size doesn’t really matter but cheaper clothes especially don’t always have enough material for larger sizes (despite the 18 on the label) I find, I’m an 18, and nobody wants to see rolls of fat, your underwear etc … I’m talking about me here, you just don’t want to see my belly! I won’t wear cropped tops for instance as a larger woman

They said the model was very overweight if I remember rightly and you took exception to that opinion.

Your reply was something like 'she doesn't look overweight, she looks gorgeous'.

The model is clearly overweight imo and also looks gorgeous.

The comment wasn't 'horrid'.

You absolutely can wear what you want.
If you ask for opinions, people are going to share their opinion. If you want to wear what you want rather than what others think you should wear, don't ask or listen to other people's opinions.

She doesn’t look overweight at all 😂

Seeing lots of wobbly flesh is unattractive whatever size you are- but shoulders, arm,and legs what's the problem?
It's really about confidence in your own sense of style- which is pretty much unrelated to size, in my experience. I am a similar size but no one has ever told me I should cover up more, I don't see what is wrong with a halter neck dress, as long as you have a suitable bra.

But it’s not about saying your body is unattractive. It’s just that some clothes look better on larger or smaller women. I wouldn’t wear halter necks as a size 14 as I think my boobs are too big to look good in them.

I definitely think a cropped top or spaghetti straps look very different on a flat chested woman than a larger chested woman. Similarly other styles look better with boobs. I look great in a one piece swimsuit but wouldn’t wear a bikini.

But seriously don’t ask for opinions if you don’t want people to give them. Personally I’d rather someone is honest.

But you will get them anyway because when people look at an item of clothing and are asked opinions, some people will think how it would look on different body types.

In the thread linked, (is that your thread?) the second dress didn’t look good on the model as it didn’t fit well and made her look like she had no waist and like a rectangle of colours. Looking on asos, I have seen that model pictured in other things and they suit her far more imo. Some people will then decide they don’t like dress at all because it looked bad on the model, others will think it may look good on someone with a different body size and comment that. I think it looks cheap and horrible and can’t imagine it looking good on anyone, but who cares.

Always wear something that fits, whether you are ann8, 18 or 28. Badly fitting clothes involve a lot of tugging and that only draws attention to bits you're trying not to highlight.

FWIW, I loved the primrose dress 1

crocs cured my plantar fasciitis and I will not hear a word said against them

Genuinely I cannot fathom how you cannot see that she's very clearly overweight.

But does look gorgeous.

See, there lies the problem. She is obviously overweight. It doesn’t matter, it’s her body, her business, but if you genuinely can’t see that she is overweight, I don’t know what to say.

Honestly wear what you like and makes you comfortable / feel snazzy / whatever.

I don't like seeing bums hanging out the bottom of shorts / bikinis but that's me. I prefer nice big swimsuits. But I still wouldn't be caught dead in one.