Being told that as a size 18 I can’t wear certain clothes

[isaidmaybeyoure]

I do appreciate that when posting canvassing for opinions on outfits etc., you will get all sorts of responses.

But I have been told a few times now that as a size 18, I should cover up and not expose too much skin, basically purely because of my size.

AIBU to think this isn’t okay? I have as much a right to get my shoulders out as any other size!

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/style_and_beauty/5550474-which-dress-for-the-evening-do-of-a-wedding?page=5&reply=153351951

'Now I’ve seen you’re a size 18, dress 1 would also be unsuitable. Too much flesh on show.'

This!

I agree on here the SAB lot are lovely, I go there a lot. They maybe can be honest though.

Take no notice! Wear what you want and I bet you look fab for it. You know what looks best? Confidence. Don't ask for advice online, they will be cruel.

@isaidmaybeyoure can you post the picture of you in the halter neck and we’ll give you honest opinions?

Who on earth is saying this? Just wear what works for you op, including a halter neck dress if that’s what you want to wear. That said, you ask for opinions on here you are going to get them and some may not seem fair or reasonable. People can have very strange views when expressing them on an anonymous internet site.

No. I don’t need you to sit and tear apart my body because I have some loose skin on my upper arms.

So basically peoole hiding behind a screen that have never seen you?

Oh yes, but that’s rare. Op ignore that poster. You ask the general public you will get the occasional twat.

No idea frankly. I’m obese (and short with it), and I wouldn’t go out in a tank top and short bike pants as, frankly, it would be too much flesh on display. I wouldn’t like looking at that so I won’t impose it on others.

It’s not just about size though. I don’t appreciate walking up stairs behind thin people wearing those tight up the bum scrunch exercise/leisure pants. Don’t like having that literally in my face, even though they are thin.

I agree that if you ask people for their opinions then of course they should be honest with you. Otherwise what is the point in asking?

Somebody offering their opinion unsolicited is an entirely different thing: that is just plain rude and unpleasant.

Everyday I see women wearing just what they like regardless of body size. You should do the sane OP. Just wear what you want to wear

I wouldn’t as I don’t like my arms (size 14-16) but I hold myself to standards that I don’t hold other people to. If you’re comfortable, then wear it. Confidence is attractive! As a pp said, the only thing I don’t like, is to see people’s butt cheeks hanging out, but that applies to everyone, regardless of size!

Of course you can wear what you like. But it’s S&B, you’re going to get opinions about whether something looks good.

My best friend is a size 18. She’d be too self conscious to wear something that exposed her arms. I get it as I’d be the same. We’ve all seen the comments on here about ‘ham arms’ or ‘dinner lady arms’. Not everyone has your body confidence.

In that thread alone there is more than one person going after a size 18 body when all the OP asked for is an opinion on a dress, not an opinion on her or a model's body.

I agree OP its rife on S&B when it's often nothing to do with what the OP asked. But like I say, just ignore.

Do what you like, its your body and the only thing you shouldn't be doing is things that you're not comfortable with.

Wear what you like! I found a tv times recently from 1986. This poor size 14 woman can go out again now there’s clothes available for her 🤣🤣

Oh I wasn’t planning to do that. I just wanted to see the dress really and if it suited you or not.

I’ve never been a lover of halter neck dresses or tops on anyone to be honest even if a size 8. So I just wanted to be proved wrong.

If you're asking for opinons, hpught, I don't think there's anything wrong with wearing a halterneck. I think it would probably be flattering to see your shoulders and whole arm, rather than something with a sleeve length that hits in an awkward place. It also shows an element in confidence in not hiding yourself away, which is more attractive than covering up in something shapeless.

What's the point of asking the question if you aren't open to different opinions? You say you appreciate you'll get all sorts of answers and then don't appreciate the answers! If you think you can wear what the fuck you like whether others think it looks good or bad then why ask any question at all?

After all that I find you didn't go for the halter neck dress anyway, although personally I really liked it!

I think it's always much better to have actual pictures of you in the dresses because certain people can carry things off that others can't regardless of size. People say to me that they think I'd look lovely in a dress but I never ever wear dresses because although I'm skinny I don't look good in them, I just look scrawny and childlike. For that reason i actually like a halter neck as it covers up my collarbone.

As long as it’s appropriate to the occasion (crop top at a funeral type thing I mean), wear what you want. Sections of society do sadly judge people for their body shape/size and you can’t change that but I don’t think most people really care. A lot of women in particular are too busy worrying about their own bodies.

Some styles are more flattering to larger sizes than others. lf you have large boobs (and most 18s will do) I’d be wondering how they are going to get any support in that nobodys child dress. Perhaps you are young and don’t need much support ?

However- it’s definitely not about “too much flesh on display”. That poster was really rude.

I have gone for the halterneck!

I think opinions are one thing, but making comments about something that can’t be changed in an instant aren’t really necessary

To be honest my tactic with anything I need a strapless bra for is just to tuck the straps of my normal push up bra into the side 🤣 it’s worked so far

Of course people should wear whatever they want. But other people can have an opinion on whether it looks good or not.
If you don't care about other peoples opinions on what you wear - don't ask.