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Hen Do Nightmares! WHY WHY WHY

175 replies

MaeWestNeverForgets · 05/07/2026 12:28

Sorry, this is more just a vent, but I'm organising a Hen do for a good friend, but, quelle surprise, the whole thing has become a quagmire of merd, and I'm not sure I've got the boots for it.
The Bride to be has decided to theme the whole thing around the Marvel Cinematic Universe, and we all have to go dressed as characters. Straight-away there were issues with three people wanting to be Black Widow. I've tried to steer people towards other characters; otherwise, at best, it'll just look like a bunch of bad Scarlett Johannsen impersonators have shoehorned themselves into faux leather pants and at worst that people will think three of Wagner's Rhinemaidens have turned up for a BDSM party...I tried to gently, but in a lighthearted way to suggest that one of the girls, given her haircut and build ( And I'm not judging) could go as The Hulk, but this didn't go down well. I secretly think she may believe I was making a snide comment about the time she came to a picnic wearing ripped trousers....anyway....I spoke to the B2B and explained I was frustrated and that I had a good mind to go dressed as Bane, ( And do the voice all night) well, she burst into tears and accused me of trying to sabotage the whole thing whilst shouting 'You know that BANE is DC not Marvel. Anyway she calmed down and I've compromised and am going as Thanos. It's just such a headache, she thinks I can just snap my fingers and it'll happen ( Which, ironically if I was Thanos I could do....' Then there's the venue....nothing too small..so the Paris catacombs are out, nothing to big and impersonal, so ditto the deconsecrated power station. One of the girls has a phobia of boats, so HMS Belfast is off the list. Why do these things have to be so complicated? For my Hen Do, we had a simple chicken dinner and an evening watching Sumo Wrestling in Edinburgh. Everyone had a great time and got a lovely gift bag with some Japanese shortbread and a pair of balls. Anyway rant over....But AIBU? Or is it time to really pare back Hen do's?

OP posts:
KettleHead87 · 06/07/2026 16:40

MaeWestNeverForgets · 06/07/2026 15:59

No, never read them im afriad, nor seen the film....was always more Adrian Mole

Love Adrian Mole. Don’t watch the series though if you haven’t yet seen it, it was unacceptable.

wishingonastar101 · 06/07/2026 17:03

My body hurts with cringe when you see a bunch of 40 year olds staggering about in maids costumes and sashes and wands... blurghhh. Go back to Essex.

KettleHead87 · 06/07/2026 18:16

wishingonastar101 · 06/07/2026 17:03

My body hurts with cringe when you see a bunch of 40 year olds staggering about in maids costumes and sashes and wands... blurghhh. Go back to Essex.

Oi!!! As someone who was born in Essex, piss off!

springvegetables · 06/07/2026 18:23

SockPlant · 05/07/2026 12:54

you sound mean, and what is the issue with people going as the Black Widow? there are so bloody few women in the MCU there is bound to be overlap

Suggesting someone should go as the hulk? what are you going as?

Because everyone knows Scarlet witch is much better 😉

pouletvous · 06/07/2026 19:18

What the actual eff?

a marvel dress up party!

like 6 year old boys?

chaosmaker · 06/07/2026 19:33

@MaeWestNeverForgets drop out :)

Vaxtable · 06/07/2026 19:50

Just tell the bride you have had enough, it’s too hard to organise so she either takes it down or finds someone else to do it

mrscoreytaylor · 06/07/2026 20:12

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Peachperfect · 06/07/2026 20:15

mondaytosunday · 05/07/2026 12:33

This doesn’t sound real. Hen dos should be banned though.

What? Why?!

Idontcareboutthestateofmyhair · 06/07/2026 21:29

Oh dear! I think you should emigrate to Yemen.. a la chandler quick smart

Bananalanacake · 06/07/2026 21:41

Can you go as someone from the Simpsons and claim it's owned by DC Marvel or whoever,,,

NormasArse · 06/07/2026 21:59

BeautifulViolets · 05/07/2026 14:46

Whether this is real or not, paragraphs are your friend - people may be arsed to read it then. Or not.

I read it 🤷‍♀️

RSSN · 06/07/2026 22:22

This is just hillarious! I've got a feeling you're in the wrong job. I'm thinking you could be a stand up comedian or write comedy. This is actually very witty & clever!!

maxslice · 06/07/2026 22:35

Marvel Cinematic Universe? Is she old enough to get married, because she sounds like a child.

SmallandSpanish · 06/07/2026 22:36

Is this the start of a novel?

maxslice · 06/07/2026 22:39

forthrenightaway · 05/07/2026 18:29

Couldn’t get upset over DC or Marvel. All sounds a bit immature

A bit?

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 06/07/2026 22:55

Is merd a mixture of mud and terds?
Certainly sounds that way.
I would bail out of organising this hucking, clucking debacle asap.

Make an excuse and let them get on with it.

👎🐓🐔🎊🧨

Atari5000 · 07/07/2026 06:07

What a great read for a Monday morning, thanks OP

BeautifulViolets · 07/07/2026 06:19

NormasArse · 06/07/2026 21:59

I read it 🤷‍♀️

Aren’t you clever 🤷‍♀️

AmberGreenwood · 07/07/2026 06:27

I’m with you for most of it, but telling someone they should go as the Incredible Hulk was harsh 😂🤦‍♀️ even more so because ‘they are the right build and size’. Also if the bride has such specific ideas, maybe she should just plan it herself?

MaeWestNeverForgets · 07/07/2026 07:41

Atari5000 · 07/07/2026 06:07

What a great read for a Monday morning, thanks OP

Have a lovely day.

OP posts:
MaeWestNeverForgets · 07/07/2026 07:42

Idontcareboutthestateofmyhair · 06/07/2026 21:29

Oh dear! I think you should emigrate to Yemen.. a la chandler quick smart

'I'd like one fake ticket to Yemen please.'

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WeightLossGoal2024 · 07/07/2026 08:10

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

MaeWestNeverForgets · 07/07/2026 09:05

SmallandSpanish · 06/07/2026 22:36

Is this the start of a novel?

No, just the first Act of a Farce😁

OP posts:
Holidaymodeon · Yesterday 20:45

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 05/07/2026 12:43

She’s not a young child so why the marvel costumes?! I’d refuse to pander to such nonsense.

Worst hen I had a few years ago in Brighton (yes I know) was pink and sparkles. Luckily any shade of pink was ok. We had t shirts with our names on. One of the girl’s names was spelled wrong Susannah rather than Susanna. She made a real stink about it but it was too late to get them reprinted. Luckily she laughed it off on the day after a few cocktails and shots. The girl organising it had extra pink sequinned scarves and pink glitter and pink feather boas for anyone who forgot (on purpose?).

Edited

What does ‘yes I know’ mean in this context?
I only ever see it on mn, or ‘I know I know’.

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