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The first step towards an international instrument to abolish surrogacy.

169 replies

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 03/07/2026 08:26

"A group of states at the United Nations has launched a political declaration calling for an international moratorium on surrogacy, marking a significant first step in what its supporters hope will become a global abolitionist framework."

UN States Launch Political Declaration for Global Surrogacy Moratorium ━ The European Conservative

"That is a long road. But for those who oppose the buying and selling of babies and the exploitation of women, the fact that states have now placed the issue formally on the UN track is already the point: the market is global, and the response is beginning to become global, too."

I not sure I have any faith in the UN anymore, but hopefully this will gain some traction, I can see it clashing with the Global Left's Utopian ideals though.

UN States Launch Political Declaration for Global Surrogacy Moratorium

The declaration is not legally binding, but its promoters see it as the first step towards an international instrument to abolish surrogacy.

https://europeanconservative.com/articles/news/un-states-launch-political-declaration-for-global-surrogacy-moratorium/

OP posts:
Grammarnut · 03/07/2026 16:21

WomensSports · 03/07/2026 14:53

The world is overpopulated and we need to get a handle on the massive amount of resources that first world countries are overusing and the huge environmental impact on less developed countries whose emissions are a direct result of what we buy from them and outsource to them. If that means that some people need to accept that they can’t have kids, like everyone infertile did 100 years ago, then that’s how it needs to be.

I don’t think there should be any exceptions because the trauma to the child should be weighed higher than the want of the woman or man to obtain a child. People who think of children as tradeable objects will never make good parents. The baby farms are sickening and we should do whatever it takes to stop that. If any surrogacy is allowed, we cannot ask hard questions at borders etc when someone tries to take a baby out of the country that isn’t theirs. This is why so many countries have cracked down on international adoptions.

I think reducing total fertility and protecting the babies and pregnant women should be front and centre not letting Kim Kardashian have a fifth kid.

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Malthus was wrong. Provably wrong since we are here and the majority of humans are not starving because we cannot grow enough food. Think carefully about reducing populations. Someone has to work to support those who cannot - the old, the sick, the disabled (unless you would throw those people under the bus of course).
Surrogacy is evil because it treats humans as commodities to be bought and sold. We have a name for that: slavery.

Lexibletheflexible · 03/07/2026 16:22

Grammarnut · 03/07/2026 16:15

Altruistic surrogacy sounds lovely. But it doesn't really work like that, sadly. What happens is that people order babies as if they are commodities (the market commodifies everything and we now live in a world where the market is sovereign) and if you allow 'altruistic' surrogacy you will end up allowing the exploitation of women who mainly are poorer than the baby-buyers. Having children is not a right, it is a blessing. Some cannot have children and they adopt. Same sex couples can adopt, although Lesbian couples can have their babies if they are prepared to pay for AI, or persuade a friend to be a sperm donor (but he will have parental rights and may not want them, so this solution is a minefield).

Celebrities in the US especially are renting the wombs of other women so that the female half of the couple doesn't need to go through the dangers and pains of pregnancy and birth - and they seem oblivious that though they may have given the genetic material it is the mother's body which makes the baby, so 'their' child is also the child of its mother and wants that mother, too, which is cruel to the baby, who is a person, not a commodity.

Do you feel men are equally vulnerable to being coerced into providing sperm to sperms banks for donation to couples experiencing infertility or lesbians?

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 16:23

Lexibletheflexible · 03/07/2026 16:22

Do you feel men are equally vulnerable to being coerced into providing sperm to sperms banks for donation to couples experiencing infertility or lesbians?

This is a great point. Sperm donation is equally exploitative

WhatAMarvelousTune · 03/07/2026 16:26

SueKeeper · 03/07/2026 14:27

It should be legally in line with live organ donation - as you are essentially using someone else's body to improve your own life. All the arguments against selling organs can be applied to surrogacy. We can't buy kidneys as it is viewed as exploitation of poorer people and commodification of the human body, but people can give a kidney to a family member or relative they love. The reason it is treated differently is because society doesn't care so much if a law is only to protect women's bodies.

I agree. Going to poorer countries to buy organs from people who need the money would be seen as abhorrent. Why is surrogacy different? I mean, buying a kidney actually has greater benefits than buying a baby, because the person might die without it. And yet we, rightly, don’t allow it even to save a life. We don’t say “well if the person agrees then they should have the right to do what they want with their body, even if that means selling a part of their liver”.

Lexibletheflexible · 03/07/2026 16:28

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 16:23

This is a great point. Sperm donation is equally exploitative

It's also weird that we are now in a situation where anywhere a man's sperm can fertilise an egg, he can claim parental rights, according to one comment.

But it doesn't work the other way around - so a woman's egg can be used for IVF for another woman to hopefully conceive and carry, but the egg donor cannot claim parental rights AFAIK.

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 16:30

Lexibletheflexible · 03/07/2026 16:28

It's also weird that we are now in a situation where anywhere a man's sperm can fertilise an egg, he can claim parental rights, according to one comment.

But it doesn't work the other way around - so a woman's egg can be used for IVF for another woman to hopefully conceive and carry, but the egg donor cannot claim parental rights AFAIK.

It’s an interesting debate for sure

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 03/07/2026 16:53

Grammarnut · 03/07/2026 16:21

Malthus was wrong. Provably wrong since we are here and the majority of humans are not starving because we cannot grow enough food. Think carefully about reducing populations. Someone has to work to support those who cannot - the old, the sick, the disabled (unless you would throw those people under the bus of course).
Surrogacy is evil because it treats humans as commodities to be bought and sold. We have a name for that: slavery.

Malthus would have been right were it not for the advent of the science which created the modern world. Without fertiliser (derived from oil), without insecticides (also derived from oil), with factory farming, without global food distribution networks (reliant on oil), without GM there would not be enough food to feed 9 billion people.

When it comes to supporting those who are old, sick, disabled etc we could always go back to doing it the way it was done in Malthus's day. Nobody has to be thrown under the bus but everyone has to be fed and watered.

You are right though surrogacy is evil and the global market in babies is already looking very similar to the global food production market.

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Cheese55 · 03/07/2026 16:54

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 16:23

This is a great point. Sperm donation is equally exploitative

I dont think men see it as exploitative, they like the idea of spreading their seed. At least, that is what one man I knew said.

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 16:56

Cheese55 · 03/07/2026 16:54

I dont think men see it as exploitative, they like the idea of spreading their seed. At least, that is what one man I knew said.

And do the women involved in surrogacy always see it as exploitative?

Cheese55 · 03/07/2026 16:57

Grammarnut · 03/07/2026 16:15

Altruistic surrogacy sounds lovely. But it doesn't really work like that, sadly. What happens is that people order babies as if they are commodities (the market commodifies everything and we now live in a world where the market is sovereign) and if you allow 'altruistic' surrogacy you will end up allowing the exploitation of women who mainly are poorer than the baby-buyers. Having children is not a right, it is a blessing. Some cannot have children and they adopt. Same sex couples can adopt, although Lesbian couples can have their babies if they are prepared to pay for AI, or persuade a friend to be a sperm donor (but he will have parental rights and may not want them, so this solution is a minefield).

Celebrities in the US especially are renting the wombs of other women so that the female half of the couple doesn't need to go through the dangers and pains of pregnancy and birth - and they seem oblivious that though they may have given the genetic material it is the mother's body which makes the baby, so 'their' child is also the child of its mother and wants that mother, too, which is cruel to the baby, who is a person, not a commodity.

There altruistic surrogates, especially in the UK.

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 03/07/2026 17:00

Sperm donation is absolutely not exploitative.

Cheese55 · 03/07/2026 17:01

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 14:31

I’d say no. The definition of infertility is the “inability to achieve a successful pregnancy after 12 months or more of regular, unprotected sexual intercourse.”.

In the case of Kim K and Louise Thompson they are able to do this. They have opted not to, because they have been warned of the risks of doing so.

Thats semantics, they can't have a baby fullstop.

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 17:03

Cheese55 · 03/07/2026 17:01

Thats semantics, they can't have a baby fullstop.

But they can, and have. They don’t want to risk it for a second.

Lexibletheflexible · 03/07/2026 17:04

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 03/07/2026 17:00

Sperm donation is absolutely not exploitative.

Why not?

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 17:04

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 03/07/2026 17:00

Sperm donation is absolutely not exploitative.

How is it not?

Paying often hard up young men to donate their genetic material is exploitative.

Cheese55 · 03/07/2026 17:21

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 16:56

And do the women involved in surrogacy always see it as exploitative?

Not the altruistic ones, no. You can join an agency to be a surrogate in the Uk. As you can't do paid work usually someone is supporting them whilst pregnant. As they have always had babies themselves, they probably have a partner supporting them.

Cheese55 · 03/07/2026 17:22

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 17:03

But they can, and have. They don’t want to risk it for a second.

Unable to have a baby then

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 17:25

Cheese55 · 03/07/2026 17:22

Unable to have a baby then

Able to, but unwilling.

Grammarnut · 03/07/2026 17:46

Cheese55 · 03/07/2026 16:57

There altruistic surrogates, especially in the UK.

I am aware. I don't approve seeing 'altruistic' surrogacy as an open door to allow in the exploitative buy a baby sort on spurious altruistic grounds. This is child cruelty above all else that it is i.e. human trafficking (slavery). Their is no right to have children.

FlakyMint · 03/07/2026 17:48

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 17:04

How is it not?

Paying often hard up young men to donate their genetic material is exploitative.

You have no idea what you're talking about.

The average age of a sperm donor is 36 in the UK. That is not young.

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 17:50

FlakyMint · 03/07/2026 17:48

You have no idea what you're talking about.

The average age of a sperm donor is 36 in the UK. That is not young.

With a life expectancy of 80 I’d say it’s fairly young!

why is it exploitation when it’s women, but not men?

FlakyMint · 03/07/2026 17:52

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 17:50

With a life expectancy of 80 I’d say it’s fairly young!

why is it exploitation when it’s women, but not men?

Are you daft? What does life expectancy have to do with this?

You can only donate sperm until you are 45.

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 17:58

FlakyMint · 03/07/2026 17:52

Are you daft? What does life expectancy have to do with this?

You can only donate sperm until you are 45.

You said they’re not young. I would argue, in the grand scheme of things, they are.

Grammarnut · 03/07/2026 18:02

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 03/07/2026 16:53

Malthus would have been right were it not for the advent of the science which created the modern world. Without fertiliser (derived from oil), without insecticides (also derived from oil), with factory farming, without global food distribution networks (reliant on oil), without GM there would not be enough food to feed 9 billion people.

When it comes to supporting those who are old, sick, disabled etc we could always go back to doing it the way it was done in Malthus's day. Nobody has to be thrown under the bus but everyone has to be fed and watered.

You are right though surrogacy is evil and the global market in babies is already looking very similar to the global food production market.

Malthus was wrong for the reasons you state but not because of them. He was living at the crux of the agrarian and industrial revolutions in Britain but did not understand the potential for improvement in human lives caused by the industrial revolution. The agrarian revolution had already increased crop yields and freed up labour (people) to work in the new factories where conditions (although appalling in hindsight) were much better than those working in agriculture or as e.g. independent weavers, when there was no end to labour i.e. an independent weaver and his family would work 7 days a week and as long as the light lasted (18 hours in summer) as would agricultural workers. Factories ran shifts and the hours of work were set - most factory workers had Sunday (or part of it) off.
Malthus was blinded by exponential mathematics in population and assumed that food production was not exponential, without seeing what was around him: improving agriculture and a shift from the majority working at subsistence level to a future of many working above that level.
We also do not see the implications of advances and changes now happening (some of which are invidious to us, as it happens) and wring our hands at 'over population' as Malthus did.
Those who believe Malthus' mathematics should beware. Lowering the birth rate (as has happened in advanced Western societies and is happening as others become more prosperous - another thing that did not impinge on Malthus' maths) means lowering the productive base of our societies. So the old and the ill must work longer because we will not have a wide base of the young and able to support us. A grim prospect which will cause the collapse of our civilization.
And yes, surrogacy is evil, it is one of the things that can be called modern slavery (no different from the old slavery afaik) with both mothers and children bought and sold.

FlakyMint · 03/07/2026 18:19

iamfrustrated · 03/07/2026 17:58

You said they’re not young. I would argue, in the grand scheme of things, they are.

Your argument is without merit.

In the grand scheme of sperm donation 36 is not young. It's in the upper half of the range.

In the grand scheme of men in general 36 is not young. A 36 year old man would be too old for many roles in the armed forces.