Dieting is horrendous

[SassyLemonFish]

Just looking for sympathy really.

I’ve a bmi of 28. I need to lose a lot of weight. For the last two weeks I’ve been good but MY GOD the hunger and sheer depressing nature of it all. My BMR is only 1600. Sticking to 1000 or less is so hard.

My husband, on the other hand, seems to have no hunger and amazing self control. Last night he ate a single sweet potato and declared that as his dinner. His BMR is 2700. I can see him visibly changing before my eyes.

I guess I’m just jealous.

But surely you know that everyone is different?

If we're talking about appearance rather than health... Someone with a small light frame and low muscle mass can look very fat indeed at BMI 28, and someone broad with dense bones and good muscle mass can look relatively trim. That's why BMI is a range.

After reading the OP replies and some of the controversial advice given here I assume it’s another case of inability/unwillingness to count calories correctly.

I am one of those mythical petite perimenopausal people who according to mumsnet need to eat fresh air to lose weight.

In reality I need to eat around 2100 kcal a day to maintain (yes I count). Currently eating 2600 on average because I am breastfeeding a 1 year old toddler. I am 161.5cm high - measured myself yesterday together with DC who are getting through a growth spurt, and I weigh 49.5 kilo. I would look like a skeleton on 1000, 1200 or even 1600 kcal a day and would be dead within half a year.

Of course . That’s why BMI is a load of shite and no need to mention at all the specific number as if it’s the most relevant thing I guess . And people are always using the “short people look worse with a higher bmi”. Despite being very short I never looked fat with a bmi of 25-26 and I’ve no muscles to speak of

If your BMI is 28 then I doubt you have “a lot” to lose to get into the healthy weight range. A couple of stone max surely?

BMI has a wide corridor and allows for body differences, as a tool it is blunt but surprisingly good. The people who say it’s shite usually jist dislike what it tells them.

I have lost just over 3 stone on around 1100 calories a day and am now top end healthy weight. I have not been hungry often, here is what I eat:
breakfast: egg on sourdough toast with cherry tomatoes, two egg omelette with spinach or two poached eggs on spinach. Eggs are great for stopping hunger.
Lunch: large salad with cottage cheese or Humous on 3 ryvita, or salad with hard boiled egg and quorn ham (if I didn’t have egg for breakfast.) maybe goats cheese some days. The salad needs to be big and varied to keep my interest.
Dinner: Smallish portion of what we usually have with lots of veg. I have boiled cauliflower instead of rice but sometimes have a few small potatoes. I have an apple or some berries after lunch and dinner.
I go to the gym or do exercise classes 6 days a week this makes me feel much better about myself and stops me wanting snacks. I’m not sure it actually helps weight loss but being fitter makes me energised and optimistic so well worth the effort.
At 5’2” and fast approaching 70 I need to keep calories quite low to lose weight, but I have found that as the new habits become embedded it gets lots easier, good luck OP.

are you suggesting I am fat and I don’t like that. Cos that seems to be what you are strongly implying ? Just say what you think instead of dancing around it please you sad keyboard warrior

What do you define as fat? It’s not a nice term but ultimately anything over 25 is over weight. I don’t know why you’d be annoyed at someone referring themselves a certain way, they can view their own body how they like. I have called myself fat at a much lower BMI than 27 because it was fat for me.