Is this racism?

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Basically I was at the pub in the pub and nobody was behind the bar.

I was first in line.

An elderly couple come and and then another man who slams his glass down.

When the bar lady asks "who is first"? I replied me.

The elderly couple say "we have been waiting ages".

And the man next says "I didn't see her".

I felt this was due to me being mixed race.
I felt quite intimidated.

I only popped in for a drink whilst OH has the kids.

I feel any shaken up as the only ethnic person in the place.
AIBU

Exactly. It did actually upset me the first few times that happened but now I really don’t care what people like that say. I was called a racist and a fascist the other day for saying that I’d like a conversation about immigration.

The thing is, I know I’m not a racist (or a fascist 🤣 - my kids may disagree when rooms need tidying) and all these people achieve is to demonstrate their complete lack of argument and propensity for bullying.

Can you specify exactly where the racist element in OPs interaction was?

If she has assumed racism because they looked at her face then that means she will interpret literally every negative interaction where her face is visible as racism.

Which is quite similar to pp accused the entire population of the U.K. of being racist. Which is also a ludicrous position to hold.

woah there trigger - I've not read all the posts to this point.

Me and the majority of white people in the UK. Not wanting to become a minority in our country. So extreme!

You don't speak for me. I don't a shit what colour skin is in the majority / minority here in the UK - If we are here legally then we have as much right to be here as anyone else.

Utter rage bait. So white people can't cheer black footballers when they score goals? Damned if we do damned if we don't. The fact that OP used that particular example shows just who really does want a divide. Bore off.

Everyone is a racist and a fascist if you don't fall in line with the likes of @MissBeans83 dated attitude. Don't get me started on seeing, yet again, the notion that black people can't be racist. For these people who claim be educated, I really do wish they would study the relevant legal position on racism. All very well doing these City and Guilds diversity courses. That makes you a level 2 novice.

This is the story. You stood your ground. A very normal pub situation. There's always a tosser.

Making a normal interaction like this into a racist incident does racism a disservice. You have told us nothing that suggests racism was involved. Unconscious bias because you were a woman by yourself, perhaps.

Racism, no well they might have been racist but impossible to tell. Just 2 selfish, self absorbed people who wanted to be served first. Unfortunately there’s a lot like them.

Oh I switched off with the her word salads.

It isn't worth your time.

This. ^

I wasn't really expecting such a huge response.

But from my perspective the media has played a significant hand in causing such a divide and stirring up racial hatred.

Since 9/11 whenever there is a terrorist attack the headline will always be "Muslim extremist" but when a white person commits the same it will always be watered and played down and never branded a terrorist.

That crazy girl who looks like a bloke with the shaven head for example, or the idiot who drove into people at the Liverpool parade, how come they were not branded terrorists?
Funnily enough Tommy Morrison kept quiet about.

And all this talk of Pakistani grooming gangs, but what about the white men who do the same?
Why no outcry there?

I stand by the incident in the pub was racism and some random bloke pipped up when it was nothing to do with him. He also slammed the glass down next to me quite aggressively.

Could be. But I will say as a short person, this used to happen to me all the time back when I was in pubs a lot.

Why bother trying to justify and get answers from a collective group of racists on here? You won't.

You have seen the responses. From whataboutery, to rage, to passive aggressive responses.

Use your circle and your people who aren't racist and who will validate your experience in real life. Don't seek it here.

The vast majority of people have a brain and know what covert and overt racism is.

Unfortunately, you have attracted the ones on here who of of an undesireable demographic.

If you don't care what skin colour is in the majority in the UK, does that not caring stretch to other countries?

So you wouldn't care if places like Nigeria, Japan or Pakistan became majority white countries? As long as the white people were there legally, even if the native populations did not want that?

You don't think it would have any negative effect on their culture or society?

And all this talk of Pakistani grooming gangs, but what about the white men who do the same?
Why no outcry there?

There are no gangs of white men targeting black or brown children. But you know this.

He also slammed the glass down next to me quite aggressively.

I rest my case m’lud

Undesirable demographic - you wouldn't be stereotyping would you? I hope you didn't pay for those diversity courses because the material must have skipped the part on prejudice. You've concluded the OP was the subject of racism without even being present. I hope you're never called up for jury service because I'm not seeing much (overt or covert) objectivity.

I also meant to say, I have no doubt you accurately picked up on their racism.

A lot of these people do it in an insideous way, where they don't give you anything specific to quote you on.

Don't let it or them define who you are as a whole.

That crazy girl who looks like a bloke with the shaven head

Who?

the crazy girl with the shaved head who looks like a bloke

Seems it's the OP and her entourage who are keen to use discriminatory terms - on a thread about racism.

I think she’s referring to Alina Burns, according to the headlines - neo-nazi, far-right extremist, terrorism-motivated attack, nazi obsessed etc etc etc. But no mention of terrorism in the headlines of course because she is white #sarcasm

That explains the thread about Alicia Burns, which asked why there was no outcry there. It's very familiar to what the OP is saying here 🤔 what a coincidence.

Alina Burns - no mention of terrorism 🙄

You are the problem.
You are paranoid and looking for racism in even the most common situations .
You sound very immature.
GROW UP.

So the rude racist spoke to you too?
He's ignorant, aggressive, and probably pissed.
Your Pantone reference is irrelevant.
Better luck next time

I read the OP as having very likely experienced racism in that moment. It didn’t seem up for question who was there first, they were messing with her. The privilege permeating so many of the replies here is astonishing.