I have a child with learning disabilities, autism, adhd he’s been on the waiting list for 3 years now. (School referred, he’s in a Sen school) he absconds, he needs a handling belt. He is frankly a fucking menace outside and requires 2 adults to his one self realistically to stay safe. He is violent and can also be a risk to himself. He has transport to and from school.
He needs help with all forms of personal hygiene. We go through massive of clothing and bedding because he chews them.
He doesn’t get the higher mobility rate even though he is a massive fucking risk and he would be entitled to a wheelchair now he’s too big for the SEN pushchair, he just refuses to go in it. I didn’t lie on my forms. I didn’t even over egg the pudding as many suggest. I was able to give evidence of my examples.
The issue people have probably wouldn’t be with someone like my son, if they spent a day dealing with him they’d likely not begrudge any help we get.
I think when people hear about those who have lived independently and haven’t seen their internal struggles caused by ADHD, it annoys them, especially when they get higher rates etc.
Recently a (ex) friend of mine decided her DC has adhd, which just because I didn’t see signs of, I supported her with. But then she was asking about my son, what things he did for his DLA. She admitted she was sick of everyone getting free money and thought she’d try too. It’s sad but because the media keep telling us adhd is paying so well for people who don’t need it, more people are thinking they’ll try it then. It’s a viscous circle.
I have adhd myself, late diagnosed woman in my 30s, I haven’t applied for DLA because I don’t need it. But my life has been a struggle. From antidepressants from 13 to the rest of my life. From the struggles with jobs, friends, relationships. I have dyslexia that wasn’t picked up on because I was “naughty”. It’s a horrid thing to live with. But I found ways to cope. Not everyone is as lucky.