Don’t get me wrong, I completely accept my son’s ADHD (and autism) diagnosis. We paid for it privately as we didn’t wanted to wait for months, so definitely not a case of struggling with accepting it.
However, I was shocked at the difference between the two diagnosis. For autism, DS spent two long sessions with a psychiatrist + a separate session with parents, where we were asked detailed questions, examples etc. He was 10yo at the time.
Now at 12yo, it was apparently fine for me to be there during the assessment and even to be the one answering most questions. And again, we were not asked about details, how exactly is x challenging, what happens
during a typical homework session, etc, just: do you struggle with homework?
My point is: whilst I’m convinced that DS has ADHD, I found that it would have been very easy to get a diagnosis for a child with no special needs. And that’s not the case with ASD assessment - maybe why people are not as doubtful as with ADHD.