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AIBU to think I might have a nervous breakdown in the jungle

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Writer034 · Today 10:01

My partner, my kids and I are going away on a bit of an exotic holiday and will be staying, amongst other things, for one week in a small private retreat which is on a jungle island and built quite literally in the middle of the jungle.

It's en eco resort where they don't believe in harsh chemicals (which I agree with) and try to coexist with nature. I came across it because I'm a writer and someone invited me to a writing retreat there, I couldn't go but checked out the place and fell in love with it based on the stunning photos and videos available on the net. It's got amazing Tripadvisor reviews and so I booked the whole thing, not giving much thought to where it's located (I just thought of it as, 'lush vegetation', not 'middle of the tropical rainforest').

Now, it's almost coming up to the trip, I'm starting to seriously panic. It's for the first time sinking in that we are going to be IN the jungle, and while there are some very cool things - monkeys, hornbills, geckos - there are also snakes, spiders, mosquitoes galore, and our accommodation - being based on authentic Malaysian architecture - is kind of like a giant tree house. It's really pretty and artistic, set in 7 acres of jungle with two stunning saltwater swimming pools, but on the website itself - which I have only for the first time read properly this week! - it clearly says if you're scared of the jungle, don't like insects etc, then this is not the place for you.

I've travelled a lot when younger and have hiked through what's called the outer jungle in Peru, but only for one day (didn't spend the night) and wasn't really scared at all, but I worry I'm going to feel completely trapped somewhere where I might just lose my mind if I see a massive spider in my shower or whatever. The retreat is meant to have a 5* service and incredible food made by, essentially, a private chef who cooks for each family individually (there are only 8 rooms) so there's much to look forward to, but I just keep thinking, Jesus we will really be right IN it. Not next to it, not close to it, but INSIDE it. Most of the accommodation is kind of open to the jungle (in the bedrooms, you can close the wooden shutters and turn on the air con, but otherwise the living quarters are very immersed in the rainforest)

I haven't shared my concerns with my kids as I have to model adventure spirit....I wonder if my 15 year old daughter will join me in the nervous breakdown. My partner says we'll be fine, famous last words. The resort has been there since 1996 so they absolutely know what they're doing and in fact it's owned by two Brits who were born in Malaysia and who have been wonderful to deal with (the woman is an artist and this is their former home). And yet, and yet, who's going to save me when I trip over a gigantic tarantula lol.

Any thoughts - anyone on MN, who's a real city person in normal life, gone somewhere like this on holiday and survived the trauma of various exotic fauna :-) ?

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Wordsmithery · Today 15:19

OP I completely sympathise. I love nature and wildlife and would adore a jungle stay ... But I'm absolutely terrified of spiders.

Work out a coping strategy in advance. Tell the management what you're scared of - but don't say everything, say the one thing that you really can't cope with. (For me it'd be those repulsive things with 8 legs) Hopefully they won't dismiss you as a ridiculous townie if you show you can cope with everything else. They might rock up with a removal kit if you do have any close encounters.
Perhaps take a spider catcher (a box on a stick) too?
And get your DP on board.
I hope you have an amazing time!

Barney16 · Today 15:19

Try not to overthink it but take lots of deet and apply religiously. I haven't been to Malaysia but have been to some seriously buggy places and the moment some tiny bit of say, your left knee is exposed they are at you. Make sure you have something to apply to bites too.

Calliopespa · Today 15:24

GasPanic · Today 10:54

Well there are a few more things than that - most of them unlikely to be found on a island though, like tigers though I suppose it depends how big the island is.

My guess is by far the greatest risk in a jungle is probably getting something like malaria, infected by some sort of horrible parasite or getting injured and the cut getting infected.

Yes the mosquitoes and insects would make it a most uncomfortable stay for me, but realistically you are likely to survive: it's a hotel, not real adventuring.

Jaxhog · Today 15:27

Your fear isn't unreasonable, but if you have a personal chef and air conditioning, it won't be that bad! Just wear an insect head-net, long trousers and long sleeved top. And carry a torch.

I toured around Australia last year on my own (I'm in my 70s), and was terrified about the wild life as I'd be walking through several tropical rain forests. I saw exactly 1 spider, which turned out to be a friendly spider, 3 or 4 crocs - who had no interest in us and no snakes at all. I also saw lots of kangaroos, wombats, koalas, birds, penguins etc. in the wild, which I wouldn't otherwise have done.

Enjoy it - you'll have a ball!

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