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AIBU to think I might have a nervous breakdown in the jungle

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Writer034 · Today 10:01

My partner, my kids and I are going away on a bit of an exotic holiday and will be staying, amongst other things, for one week in a small private retreat which is on a jungle island and built quite literally in the middle of the jungle.

It's en eco resort where they don't believe in harsh chemicals (which I agree with) and try to coexist with nature. I came across it because I'm a writer and someone invited me to a writing retreat there, I couldn't go but checked out the place and fell in love with it based on the stunning photos and videos available on the net. It's got amazing Tripadvisor reviews and so I booked the whole thing, not giving much thought to where it's located (I just thought of it as, 'lush vegetation', not 'middle of the tropical rainforest').

Now, it's almost coming up to the trip, I'm starting to seriously panic. It's for the first time sinking in that we are going to be IN the jungle, and while there are some very cool things - monkeys, hornbills, geckos - there are also snakes, spiders, mosquitoes galore, and our accommodation - being based on authentic Malaysian architecture - is kind of like a giant tree house. It's really pretty and artistic, set in 7 acres of jungle with two stunning saltwater swimming pools, but on the website itself - which I have only for the first time read properly this week! - it clearly says if you're scared of the jungle, don't like insects etc, then this is not the place for you.

I've travelled a lot when younger and have hiked through what's called the outer jungle in Peru, but only for one day (didn't spend the night) and wasn't really scared at all, but I worry I'm going to feel completely trapped somewhere where I might just lose my mind if I see a massive spider in my shower or whatever. The retreat is meant to have a 5* service and incredible food made by, essentially, a private chef who cooks for each family individually (there are only 8 rooms) so there's much to look forward to, but I just keep thinking, Jesus we will really be right IN it. Not next to it, not close to it, but INSIDE it. Most of the accommodation is kind of open to the jungle (in the bedrooms, you can close the wooden shutters and turn on the air con, but otherwise the living quarters are very immersed in the rainforest)

I haven't shared my concerns with my kids as I have to model adventure spirit....I wonder if my 15 year old daughter will join me in the nervous breakdown. My partner says we'll be fine, famous last words. The resort has been there since 1996 so they absolutely know what they're doing and in fact it's owned by two Brits who were born in Malaysia and who have been wonderful to deal with (the woman is an artist and this is their former home). And yet, and yet, who's going to save me when I trip over a gigantic tarantula lol.

Any thoughts - anyone on MN, who's a real city person in normal life, gone somewhere like this on holiday and survived the trauma of various exotic fauna :-) ?

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Honeyhonayboo · Today 10:03

I’m sure you will be fine in your 5* luxury retreat in a jungle setting.
You’re hardly fending for yourself in the wild, are you?

KatiePricesKnickers · Today 10:04

Clothing, Deet, 2 types antihistamines.
Nothing in Malaysia will kill you.

DancingonmyOwn88 · Today 10:21

If you were expected to pitch up your own tent and forage for food maybe, but it’s hard to see the reason for a nervous breakdown in a five star location. If you see a spider and you do not wish to, someone can be called upon to remove it for you. I’m sure you’ll be able to push aside any ‘trauma’ with a dip in the pool, a bespoke cocktail and a meal created for you personally by a top chef. It’s hardly Tarzan and Jane is it.

BauhausOfEliott · Today 10:30

Forgive me if I struggle to sympathise.

hirsuteonHRT · Today 10:30

Is this Batu Batu? I think being able to sleep with shutters snd aircon will make a real difference. Nikoi is entirely open to the elements which can mean monitor lizards in bedrooms and bathrooms and no escape from insects or sweatiness.
I think you’ll have a lovely time. But I would pack natural insect repellents and citronella etc. Rohan sell insect proof clothes too.

GasPanic · Today 10:34

KatiePricesKnickers · Today 10:04

Clothing, Deet, 2 types antihistamines.
Nothing in Malaysia will kill you.

A 2 second google yields :

The deadliest and most dangerous snakes to watch out for include:
King Cobra (Ophiophagus hannah): The world's longest venomous snake. Highly intelligent and capable of delivering a massive dose of neurotoxic venom.

SlipperyLizard · Today 10:35

We stayed in a luxury lodge in the Costa Rican rainforest last year. I was worried about how “buggy” it might be and whether DDs would cope (spiders are their key hate, even though DH and I always model calm behaviour around them!).

It was truly magical, even though the lodges would have been easy for bugs to get into, even the leaf cutter ants just went across the porch!

Livpool · Today 10:38

It would be my idea of hell, but then I wouldn’t go on this kind of holiday

Writer034 · Today 10:42

Honeyhonayboo · Today 10:03

I’m sure you will be fine in your 5* luxury retreat in a jungle setting.
You’re hardly fending for yourself in the wild, are you?

That's a totally fair comment but it's not a 5 retreat, or at least probably not the way it might sound. It's officially a 4 but actually it's like a very rustic, authentic, homely stay. Everything is made of wood and it's mostly open air, hence my concerns. Think 'jungle lodge', not 'the Shangri La' :-)

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Writer034 · Today 10:43

KatiePricesKnickers · Today 10:04

Clothing, Deet, 2 types antihistamines.
Nothing in Malaysia will kill you.

Thank you, the antihistamines are a good shout!

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basiically · Today 10:43

Op you are going to love it.

KatiePricesKnickers · Today 10:44

GasPanic · Today 10:34

A 2 second google yields :

The deadliest and most dangerous snakes to watch out for include:
King Cobra (Ophiophagus hannah): The world's longest venomous snake. Highly intelligent and capable of delivering a massive dose of neurotoxic venom.

I concede, a 🐍 could kill her, as could a crocodile, but the chances of being killed are near zero as a tourist. The taxi ride to the hotel would be far more dangerous.

Writer034 · Today 10:46

DancingonmyOwn88 · Today 10:21

If you were expected to pitch up your own tent and forage for food maybe, but it’s hard to see the reason for a nervous breakdown in a five star location. If you see a spider and you do not wish to, someone can be called upon to remove it for you. I’m sure you’ll be able to push aside any ‘trauma’ with a dip in the pool, a bespoke cocktail and a meal created for you personally by a top chef. It’s hardly Tarzan and Jane is it.

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Lol, thank you for the honest words :-) You're right it's not quite Tarzan and Jane, but it's also not what perhaps you might imagine as a luxury retreat - it's definitely not 5 luxury (there are no glass windows, to start with!) but it prides itself on 5 service (which is sort of different - the people who run the place are very proud of it and live there too) and its incredible cooking. But it's not a luxury retreat, it's a jungle hideaway. It's very homely and very beautiful, as it's been designed by an artist, but it's not some 5* hotel at all. It tries to blend with the jungle and everything is made of wood.

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Writer034 · Today 10:46

hirsuteonHRT · Today 10:30

Is this Batu Batu? I think being able to sleep with shutters snd aircon will make a real difference. Nikoi is entirely open to the elements which can mean monitor lizards in bedrooms and bathrooms and no escape from insects or sweatiness.
I think you’ll have a lovely time. But I would pack natural insect repellents and citronella etc. Rohan sell insect proof clothes too.

It's called Tiger Rock on Pangkor island

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Writer034 · Today 10:48

GasPanic · Today 10:34

A 2 second google yields :

The deadliest and most dangerous snakes to watch out for include:
King Cobra (Ophiophagus hannah): The world's longest venomous snake. Highly intelligent and capable of delivering a massive dose of neurotoxic venom.

Thanks for this, haha! I have actually checked and the resort has a well developed medical emergency drill (because it's on an island, you'd have to take a speed boat to the nearest mainland hospital) but apparently they've never had to use it. I believe there's anti venom available at all local clinics too. I did check this one thing, lol.

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KatiePricesKnickers · Today 10:49

I stayed at the Berjaya on Langkawi in a jungle lodge. Never again, should have stayed in the hotel.
Fucking mosquitoes everywhere. Even lathered up in Deet I was getting bit. Any ‘natural’ mosquito deterrent is useless out there.

Writer034 · Today 10:50

SlipperyLizard · Today 10:35

We stayed in a luxury lodge in the Costa Rican rainforest last year. I was worried about how “buggy” it might be and whether DDs would cope (spiders are their key hate, even though DH and I always model calm behaviour around them!).

It was truly magical, even though the lodges would have been easy for bugs to get into, even the leaf cutter ants just went across the porch!

Thank you this is so helpful! That's what I was hoping to hear, from someone who's tried it. Not sure these are truly luxury lodges - although it's very beautiful and certainly comfortable (air con, en suites etc - we have a whole big house to ourselves) it's very natural, homely and rustic in style, it's perhaps different to what you stayed in. But it does sound like the environment is more or less the same. Thanks!

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UpDownAllAround1 · Today 10:50

Want to swap with me for Blackpool?

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · Today 10:50

I’m pretty scared of spiders so probably wouldn’t book something like this… I’m guessing squishing them in an eco retreat is frowned upon??

It’s too late to back out now so you’re gonna have to put your big girl pants on and be brave. I believe in you OP, you’ll probably have a great time.

Writer034 · Today 10:51

basiically · Today 10:43

Op you are going to love it.

Thank you, I hope so!

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Writer034 · Today 10:52

KatiePricesKnickers · Today 10:44

I concede, a 🐍 could kill her, as could a crocodile, but the chances of being killed are near zero as a tourist. The taxi ride to the hotel would be far more dangerous.

I'm loving this discussion about the different things which could kill us lol 😂I haven't even thought about the taxi rides yet!

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GasPanic · Today 10:54

KatiePricesKnickers · Today 10:44

I concede, a 🐍 could kill her, as could a crocodile, but the chances of being killed are near zero as a tourist. The taxi ride to the hotel would be far more dangerous.

Well there are a few more things than that - most of them unlikely to be found on a island though, like tigers though I suppose it depends how big the island is.

My guess is by far the greatest risk in a jungle is probably getting something like malaria, infected by some sort of horrible parasite or getting injured and the cut getting infected.

Writer034 · Today 10:55

KatiePricesKnickers · Today 10:49

I stayed at the Berjaya on Langkawi in a jungle lodge. Never again, should have stayed in the hotel.
Fucking mosquitoes everywhere. Even lathered up in Deet I was getting bit. Any ‘natural’ mosquito deterrent is useless out there.

Ah, now yours DOES look like a real luxury stay - ours is very different I'm afraid, a private hideaway in the middle of the rainforest. I'm buying every insect repellant I can find in pharmacies lol

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Writer034 · Today 10:56

UpDownAllAround1 · Today 10:50

Want to swap with me for Blackpool?

It's not beyond imagination, at this stage :-)

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Writer034 · Today 10:57

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · Today 10:50

I’m pretty scared of spiders so probably wouldn’t book something like this… I’m guessing squishing them in an eco retreat is frowned upon??

It’s too late to back out now so you’re gonna have to put your big girl pants on and be brave. I believe in you OP, you’ll probably have a great time.

Yeah doing what I do at home (scream / call partner / bludgeon the spider with a heavy object) is probably going to make me very unpopular with the hosts haha

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