Family mocked in group chat- was i overreacting?

[AncientWasp]

At a wedding not long ago, my parents were there as were several of my friends. Few days later I was sitting near one of my friends and she was scrolling through a chat she has with 2 of our friends. I know it was wrong to look, but I was shocked to see 'Wasp's Mum' something about the dress she was wearing and 2 laughing emojis on the comment.
It moved too quickly to read the full comment properly but it was implied they were having a laugh at whatever my Mum was wearing.
I immediately said to my friend that I did not appreciate that, this was not ok. They don't know my Mum, this wasn't some friendly banter to her face, they were mocking her behind her back.
They don't have to like what she's wearing but I found that very catty. She apologised and said no harm was meant.
I decided to drop it and move on but I am put off this friend a little bit right now. Was I overreacting?

I was completely taken aback, they didn't even speak to my Mum at the wedding. I wonder how they'd feel to see their families' names on my phone in a group chat.

Ditch the Bitch.

What does ‘Wasp’s mum’ mean? Who’s Wasp or did her outfit have Wasps on?

Ignore: just seen your username 😂

What upset me was that she was trying to make it about 'having a sense of humour'. She said no harm whatsoever was meant and that she 'gets stick' from people herself and it's 'just what people do'

I dont think you overreacted, you are right that isnt nice to do, they sound a bit catty. And juvenile, not a friend ish thing to do.

Good for you sticking up for your mum. Goodness knows what else they gossip about. I would keep my distance if I were you.

My username is Wasp so I've used it to refer to myself, instead of using my actual name

What was your mum wearing? Was it shockingly inappropriate or something? But yes sounds like horrible behaviour from them.

That's nasty, shows what sort of people they are!

No it wasn't revealing or anything like that, not to everyone's taste but still

Her user name is wasp. Like I’d say “kojac’s mum” when I didn’t want to say my real name.

Yes, I had a ‘hate I say it’, a blonde moment! 😂

I honestly just couldn't be friends with someone so shallow and rude. I know hand on heart my friends wouldn't do this. If they found an outfit funny and wanted to banta about it, they would say it to my mum's face. But that's just the kind of company I keep..

Oops, she already answered!

Wouldn't want to be friends with someone who thought slagging off people's mums is "just what people do". Also someone thick enough to do it in writing and allow you to see it, even if inadvertently.

Sounds like common banter that we've all engaged in.

No harm was meant by it.

Chill.

Ok, what was the dress like? Is this where you reveal she was in a long white lace frock?

I would sit and take the piss out her mum, see how she likes it.

I would be extraordinarily hurt if someone mocked my mother’s outfit. These are not nice people. I would call them out on it and say how hurt and disappointed you are, that your mother is a good lady and wonderful mother and does not deserve to have people making negative comments about her outfit behind her back.
People deserve the fallout for their bad behaviour.

@AncientWasp what did you think of your mum’s outfit and would you have laughed about it too if it hadn’t been your mum wearing it?

Although your friend should have just said it to you directly if the outfit was ghastly like ‘omg what was your mum wearing / thinking?’

Absolute bunch of cf's. Ditch.

It wasn't white or revealing, but it's besides the point I think

My parents gave them a lift too which annoys me, mocking someone who's gone out of their way.

Not good enough. I'd be offended too.

OK that's just made it even worse for me..