Should I dump my boyfriend because he won't stop eating crisps?

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I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

OP’s post reminds me that a friend’s ex-girlfriend told him, “I hate the way you breathe.” He tried to stop, but obviously failed. I think he’s better off.

What do you know about his health? The aversion to trying different food can be ARFID, ADHD or Autism its worth exploring if you like him.

The bloke sounds like a complete knob, but you seem to be channeling Hyacinth Bucket.

He clearly hasn’t mentioned it in 7 months so it’s safe to assume there’s either nothing going on or he doesn’t want her to know.

Is he 7?? Lol

It says a lot about how he will be in the future/to live with , man child alert!

Run for the hills

Well he’s fairly well off and she would like to have a ‘traditional’ relationship where he pays for everything. So I’m not sure he’s the one at fault

As a healthy eater myself ( no ultra processed food rarely eat biscuits or crisps) I would find his eating of ultra processed junk food and bad habits a source of irritation and potentially anxiety. I don't object to occasional snacks and a lighter touch on holiday but wouldn't want to have children with someone that eats volumes of those kinds of foods regularly. Just wouldn't be compatible and I would worry about their long term health prospects and the bad example they would set to any children
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I think it's alright in moderation, as in saying, oh don't worry, I'll cover it if you're out for dinner or smth, but any more than that can be going too far, agreed

I still find it amusing that the OP likes the idea of him paying for everything and being very “traditional”, but is horrified that his mother cooked for him and did his washing. Did she think he was going to pay for everything AND do all this for himself?

That pretty much sums it up I think! She isn’t that into him but he’s got money.

I think she expects not to have to pay for anything and also expects him to do all the domestic stuff.

Unless I have misunderstood, she is not coming out of this well.

No way would I be with a man as disgusting and puerile as this.

Ah but did you miss that, by the OP’s admission, he’s well off and she expects him to pay for everything and pick up the domestic stuff if they have a future?

Do you react at the time? Say urrgh please that's disgusting. I think after 7 months you need to have this level of honesty. Like crisp packs down the bed side and so on are just on. That and the pouring down the throat. This should be the first step and then maybe he will start to understand how dislikeable a quality this is? Or just tell him straight that is a smelly habit and off putting. If he likes you enough he will rein it in surely

Why would he? Once he works out she’s after his cash, he will run for the hills anyway.

Hmmm. Sounds like not-much-of-an-adult-who-knows-how-to-behave-in-public.
I'm a great fan of junk food but I know in what settings and in whose company I should order grilled sea bass and a Sauvignon or a Triple Whopper With Cheese and a pint of lager.
Of course there will be other things that attract you to him but it doesn't really sound like a promising start.

Hahaha for the first bit it sounded like you were describing my dh, he loves a filthy crisp (so do I if the time is right) but…. we like and eat good food too, especially on holiday and the crisp love is at least a bit tongue in cheek. We don’t burst crisp packets or stash rubbish under our beds. The other behaviour tips it into ick territory.

If someone burst crisp packets on my newly cleaned living room they would shortly be meeting their maker.

When I read the title I thought come on, they’re crisps! Give the man a break!

But your description is a lot worse than the title. That is altogether too many crisps. And a lack of desire to eat any other food while aboard, whilst also smelling of crisps - it’s not adding up in his favour.

As soon as someone disgusts you, I think that’s the writing on the wall. It’s hard to come back from disgust. It’s far more likely to develop into contempt than long term love.

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What is this reply 😳 and how is it related to this thread? Or am I missing something?!