What's with assexualo suddenly being a thing?

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My 14 year old DD has just come to me to say she's assexual. She goes to an all girls school and is worried she's never had a crush. She said she went online, watched some TikTok videos and now feels happy to know there's "nothing wrong" with her because she's assexual.

I told her she's never had a crush because the odds are she's into boys and never meets any so there's no opportunity for crushes. I told her some people get crushes on people they don't know, based on appearance but many need to know the person in order to feel attracted to them in that way.

I also said it's normal for teens to question who they are as they're growing up.

It's so insidious, children are out there looking for answers and the internet churns out labels for them.

Anyone got any advice on this?

I think if my 14 year old daughter had told me at 14 that she was asexual, I would have said ‘I blooming hope so!’ At it was, she did tell me around that age that she thought she might be lesbian, because she’d never fancied a boy. I said ‘ great, fine, no big deal, but you’re very young, so don’t be in hurry to label yourself ‘. She didn’t have feelings for anyone until she was about to turn 18, when she met a boy and they have been happy together for 18 months. I think she was maybe a bit of a late developer. So was I.