The Dating Thread 60 - Summer Fling!

[Nosdacariad]

The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating
-Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
If you're wondering if you're being too picky/should give another chance after the second chance/should try harder - the answer is invariably NO! You're not and you shouldn't. If this, now, is as good as it's going to get, the A game, then do you want what comes next?!
-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

Thanks @Nosdacariad !

Thanks for the new thread, can’t believe how fast the last one filled up!

I have another date with Mr Peach tomorrow evening although I’m not sure what we’re doing. I picked the day and he was to pick the activity/place, and I’m waiting to hear back.

We’ve both been working today so obviously I haven’t expected to hear anything, so hopefully he’s had his thinking cap on and will let me know tonight 🙂

Thanks for the new thread!

Good luck - hope it goes well! X

Oooh thanks @Nosdacariad!

Good luck @empirebiscuits12, I’m sure he’ll be in touch soon!

Hi everyone.

Hope you’re okay @Nosdacariad

My soon to be exH told me I’m a horrible c*
I felt like it was difficult to come back from that!

Scenester eventually messaged five days into his holiday, I saw him when he got back and things are good but I’ve not forgotten how I felt and my guard is up a little bit, it’s going to take a while to readjust x

@PinkNeonSign yes I would have been a little upset if I was in your shoes. How long have you guys been seeing each other? Did he bring back a little token for you?

Thanks @empirebiscuits12 we’ve been seeing each other since the beginning of the year, and yes, he did bring me something, which was nice but it was tough when he went radio silent. He has been pretty consistent with making arrangements to see me, he just doesn’t stay in touch much in between, just something to be navigated I guess. It’s been fine this week, I don’t need constant or even daily contact but I do sometimes feel he leaves it too long.

Did you tell him how it made you feel?

Tried Gemini, who was all "negging" "flying monkeys" "controlling" whereas Chat is more "well maybe it was just bad choice of words".

@Nosdacariad not explicitly. He explained, unprompted, that he’d wanted to switch off from everything for a week. I’m a bit sad everything he wanted to switch off from seemed to include me. Then again, his actions are actually very positive now he’s home, as they always have been really, but last week has just left me feeling a bit insecure.

It makes sense that would make you feel sad. 💐will you tell him?

Well, that was an unexpectedly nice date with Mr Comedy. True to his name, he had me in absolute stitches! He is a lovely bloke - honest and open and fucking hilarious!

And while I wouldn't say I felt absolute lust for him, he was certainly better looking than he seems in his Hinge pics (and I told him so).

I let him drive me home, and did initiate a kiss - just like my kiss with Mr Village, it was a nice kiss but not one where the world falls away and you feel utterly desired and like you want them with every cell in your body (like I had with my ex - that's the standard I compare all men to, and I admit it's a high standard!)

So now I have both Mr Village and Mr Comedy, on a pretty equal footing if I am honest.

Let's see who invites me for a second date first! Both have said they would like to ......

Nice work! It's a lot to expect from a kiss...but you deserve nothing less.

Great stuff @Ilovelurchers I’m glad it went well.

Yes @Nosdacariad I think I’ll have to, we’re going to experience long gaps without seeing each other and I don’t want to feel so disconnected in between.

Oh no, I’d feel exactly the same as you after 6 months. But I’m glad he’s been making it up to you since he got home and that he got you something when he was away x

@Ilovelurchers Oh wow! Sounds like that was a nice surprise then. Hopefully Mr Comedy is a bit not organised in following through with a 2nd date!

Morning everyone! I've just opened Hinge to find a quite lengthy mansplanation of teaching from a newish iron. I have been a teacher for 25 years. He runs a magazine, and as far as I know, has never taught a day in his life.

Yet now I know the secret to good teaching! That'll certainly help. Thank God a man finally came along to share it with me! 🤣

Morning!

So…..have you arranged a date then?! 😂

Jesus, we all love a bit of mansplaining don’t we? I’ve had it as well over the years, men thinking they know more about (really quite minor) medical issues and treatments. I’m a nurse of 20 years and sometimes people ask me for advice, and I’ve definitely had men tell me I’m wrong and they’re right…..okay honey, just do it your way and see what happens 🙄😂😂 x

Sorry, *Nosdacariad I didn't realise a new thread had started & posted at the end of the last one.

In short, Planes is a loser. Stay strong.

Met with Mr Hat again. Great dinner, a few drinks, yapping away like mad again. He came back here and it was... Ok. He's very sweet and tactile but I was a tiny bit disappointed - but trying to remind myself it was the first time and trying not to judge too harshly!

I feel quite teary today. I wish I could put Mr Mullet out of my mind. Turned to my old friend Gemini and she came up with this cracking point (attached when approved).

Aww, CleanShirt I'm glad that it's going well in general. Hopefully it was just a dodgy first time. I hope you are alright

Thank you, I don't understand why I feel upset today! Mr Hat is lovely, open and emotionally available - the exact opposite of Mr Mullet. He's definitely got a hook in tho.

Oh and I have bizarre Fireman news!

I posted him on one of those "are we dating the same man" Facebook groups like 7 months ago and someone replied yesterday. Then I saw he was following my friend on Instagram and he's been trying to get into her too! Needless to say I warned both of them off!

Probably just one of those cruel things that our minds like to do to us. It's going well with one so they remind us of the other one, just because they can!