AIBU for wondering if I am too laid back as a parent

[Botheredd]

I worry that I am too laid back as a parent. My children are well adjusted etc and doing extremely well at school etc. I think what triggered this is one of my 5 year olds friends is coming for tea and his mum sent me a long list of things like be careful as he runs out in the road etc, watch him in the garden. I don’t think I would ever do that, I do think about him a lot and miss him but I don’t particularly worry, I just hope he is having a good time?

Yeah I've got one of those too (albeit he's 15 now but it's developed into not telling me when he's coming home!).

Sounds like the other parent is anxious, I don't think it's about not trusting you. I know that with my son, the usual parental management techniques didn't work so I would give a list of instructions. Whether they listened or not is another matter but it made me feel better 😂

It could be that her child is just naughty for her, but hopefully not for others. But just incase she’s letting you know there’s a possibility her child may be run over.

I don’t think I’d let him go to the play date tbh if there was a chance of that. So she seems too relaxed actually.

The other parent is uptight and over-anxious. You're not.

Have you actually read some of the other responses here? My god it’s so hard to parent a ND child as it is without the judgement of others calling us uptight and over anxious.

I think we get judged regardless