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To have kicked an old man’s dog?

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itsme189 · Yesterday 12:37

This morning I was walking my 2 very small elderly dogs on lead in the woods near me where it’s nice and cool for them.

they love people but they don’t love when dogs run up to them and get all in their face, valid I wouldn’t like that either. If a dog on or off lead just walks past or gives them a quick sniff they don’t mind. I always tell people not to let their dogs come right up to them.
Theyve never bitten just growled and I just don’t want to risk anything.

there was an old man walking a large greyhound type dog off lead and he’s miles away from it it runs at us very fast so I stick my leg in front of my dogs and the dog doesn’t stop runs straight into my leg. He then excitedly throws his foot on top of my smallest dog he squeals in pain and my other dog starts growling and showing teeth.

so I picked them up and then the big dogs starts jumping up at me to get to my dogs so I kick it away.

Old man then starts screaming at me for “abusing” his friendly dog and a lady walking passed then said to him “I saw her kick the dog”

and now I don’t know if I did too much but I was so overwhelmed and worried it would become a fight and there’s no way my old boys would do well in that situation. To make it worse the lady made a post about it in our local Facebook group (luckily no pictures) and everyone’s saying awful things but they only know one side!

For the record the dog was not hurt didn’t even squeal!

OP posts:
FalseSpring · Today 11:07

nomas · Yesterday 22:07

That's terrible, and glad the police sided with you.

Did she try and claim your dog was out of control or not on a leash?

No, just that mine had bitten hers. I did let my dog go once the dog fight began as they were both big dogs so I didn't want to find myself in the middle of it. There were plenty of third parties around to confirm that mine was on a lead and hers wasn't, but she didn't try to claim it was.

Ponderingwindow · Today 11:08

You defended your dogs and yourself. Anything that could have happened to the dog is the fault of the feckless owner.

LuxuryCarbs · Today 11:15

Greenand · Today 11:04

It's clear that the elderly man had no control over his dog whatsoever. In the eyes of the law he was therefore in charge of a dog that was "dangerously out of control", which is an offence.

You should report this incident.

It wasn't showing dangerous behaviors though, I think you're forgetting that is key.

myglowupera · Today 11:29

The root cause of the problem is the
man letting his dog run far away and up to people/other dogs. Everything that happens after that is on him for being a crap owner. Especially an owner who says “he’s friendly” like it’s a get out of jail card.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · Today 12:13

Allisnotlost1 · Yesterday 22:10

Indeed, and fortunately neither of those things happened here, but there are still ways to minimise harm and it’s useful to know them rather than rely on everything always being as it should be.

That was in reply to someone who wrote about "attacked by one that’s off lead and out of control."

But it did happen: her dog was injured. That's because the other dog, off lead and out of control, attacked it. Bounding up and stamping on a small elderly dog IS attacking it, from the point of view of that elderly dog and its owner.

I agree that her knowing and doing everything that has been suggested except carrying a means of defence such as a spare lead or a spray-can of compressed air (which would be hard to use while also holding two dogs up out of reach of the aggressor-dog) should have been a help, but clearly none of them worked against this canine menacing her and her dogs. She was herself damaged by the greyhound, and her dog already had been.

It's hard to see why kicking it was so unforgivable: what other means of defence had she left?

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · Today 12:15

LuxuryCarbs · Today 11:15

It wasn't showing dangerous behaviors though, I think you're forgetting that is key.

I think most people would regard a large dog jumping on a person from behind and putting its paws on her shoulders as dangerous. I know I would.

Tootiredforthis23 · Today 12:20

Hawksie · Yesterday 12:39

Yes you were wrong to kick a dog.

If your dogs aren't socialized then hire a field for them to be walked in but don't expect socialised dogs to be kept on leads in areas where they can be off lead and expect them to change 363936529936 thousands of years of genetically inbred social behaviour

A properly socialised dog has been trained not to jump up people or approach other dogs. They shouldn’t be off lead otherwise. I have dogs and I’m so fed up of other peoples untrained dogs being allowed to run around off lead, especially when they can’t even be recalled properly, and people thinking I’m supposed to be fine with it or find it cute.

itsme189 · Today 12:27

LuxuryCarbs · Today 09:34

You pick up your dogs, as you did and you turn away from the other dog, you can put a leg out, but you absolutely cannot kick the dog. That is animal cruelty and the dog was jumping, not growling or attempting to savage.

Your reaction is massively over the top.

But the dog did injure me and my dogs how long was I supposed to allow that to continue?

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itsme189 · Today 12:32

Anyway thanks everyone I do hear what people are saying about picking them up but I panicked in the moment and my dog was injured on the ground and I was worried he was going to get more injured or my other dog was going to escalate the situation to try and defend his brother who was hurt

in future I will use suggestions here which have been helpful I have ordered the corrective spray. (I think the one I ordered just makes a loud noise)

As explained kicking the dog was my last resort and would never ever be something I would do if I didn’t feel like I had to. Maybe if I had the treats and spray I wouldn’t have needed to. I also wouldn’t have needed to if the man had control of his dog but that’s by the by.

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Horses7 · Today 12:41

Please stop beating yourself up - you acted on instinct with a situation you didn’t start - I would have probably done the same!

Kokonimater · Today 12:50

Hawksie · Yesterday 12:39

Yes you were wrong to kick a dog.

If your dogs aren't socialized then hire a field for them to be walked in but don't expect socialised dogs to be kept on leads in areas where they can be off lead and expect them to change 363936529936 thousands of years of genetically inbred social behaviour

When a dog is on a lead, it should not be approached by an off lead Dog. Why do you think her dogs weren’t socialised?
To be approached by a bigger dog went on a lead causes a small dog stress and they react to protect themselves. It doesn’t mean they’re not socialised.

ThisOneLife · Today 12:54

Hawksie · Yesterday 12:39

Yes you were wrong to kick a dog.

If your dogs aren't socialized then hire a field for them to be walked in but don't expect socialised dogs to be kept on leads in areas where they can be off lead and expect them to change 363936529936 thousands of years of genetically inbred social behaviour

How is it her fault that another dog owner let their dog off the lead, it was out of control and attacked her dogs?!

EasternStandard · Today 12:58

DangerousAlchemy · Today 09:16

Absolutely this. I adore greyhounds abd was thinking of getting a rescue one a few years back. All the charities I researched said muzzle and lead in public as part of their general rehoming policy (muzzle to begin with until dog feels settled) . This was non-negotiable as they have such a high prey drive. if I had adopted one it would have always been on-lead unless I'd hired a private field. I choose to foster cats instead lol. I also dislike dogs running up to me when I'm out walking & if a big one jumped up at me I would definitely say something to the owner. No dog should be jumping all over another dog or a person when out in public.

Agree with these posts on the dog.

AgileMentor · Today 13:25

I absolutely agree with you OP. I have a dog who doesn’t like others always on a lead. If I have said my dog doesn’t like others and you have then allowed your dog to still come up to mine I am going to defend my animal. If you can’t control your dog it shouldn’t be off lead.

AgileMentor · Today 13:27

Hawksie · Yesterday 12:39

Yes you were wrong to kick a dog.

If your dogs aren't socialized then hire a field for them to be walked in but don't expect socialised dogs to be kept on leads in areas where they can be off lead and expect them to change 363936529936 thousands of years of genetically inbred social behaviour

nope nope and nope. If your dog has no recall then it shouldn’t be off the lead. If your dog goes bounding towards other dogs it shouldn’t be off the lead.

BiscuitBarrel2 · Today 13:29

I agree regarding dogs on lead - I have a bouncy dog who loves to play and I will put him on lead at the first sight of another dog because it isn’t worth the hassle of trying to mind read how the other dog owner feels about it. That said, it would take a lot for me to kick another dog, I encounter them so frequently I can see what is play vs attack.

I can only assume you went into fight vs flight mode - you have to ask yourself were you irritated and reacting on that basis (in which case it was definitely wrong), or whether you were genuinely fearful for yourself (in which case that’s your threshold crossed and while others might minimise it, the body reacts quite strongly and instinctively in fear settings).

DontEatTheMushies · Today 13:36

I think of it as...if it was a horse the dog jumped at, what would it do - A)Bolt B)kick.

That's their natural response to t treat.
A dog jumping for any reason is not under control. end of.

I would have probably done the same in that situation - having been bitten by a dog as a kid.

Its not like she walked up to the dog and kicked it. There is a significant difference.

And I doubt the guy would report it, as then the WHOLE situation will be explained and he will not come off well.

Allisnotlost1 · Today 13:47

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · Today 12:13

That was in reply to someone who wrote about "attacked by one that’s off lead and out of control."

But it did happen: her dog was injured. That's because the other dog, off lead and out of control, attacked it. Bounding up and stamping on a small elderly dog IS attacking it, from the point of view of that elderly dog and its owner.

I agree that her knowing and doing everything that has been suggested except carrying a means of defence such as a spare lead or a spray-can of compressed air (which would be hard to use while also holding two dogs up out of reach of the aggressor-dog) should have been a help, but clearly none of them worked against this canine menacing her and her dogs. She was herself damaged by the greyhound, and her dog already had been.

It's hard to see why kicking it was so unforgivable: what other means of defence had she left?

Edited

I saw her reply after and acknowledged exactly that. I don’t know why she didn’t provide more detail in the first post, but for me the latest post changed things significantly and she didn’t have much choice.

KaleidoscopeSmile · Today 13:59

I voted you were unreasonable to write such a goady thread title.

GreenCa · Today 14:45

Blades2 · Yesterday 13:15

Aye, are you a parrot?
socialised dogs even on leads aren’t nervous of other dogs coming over to them,

My dog , now age 9, has been well trained and socialised from being a puppy. He is very happy meeting and interacting, both onlead and offlead with other calm, polite dogs. However, he will correct (growling, snapping etc) at any uncontrolled dog that rushes at or jumps on him. He is not afraid of them, he is irritated by them and lets them know they need to back-off.

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