To un-invite friend from dinner after she sent me message by mistake

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I’m a long time lurker but have pulled on my big girl pants for my first ever post in AIBU!

We are hosting my friend and her husband on Saturday for dinner. We’ve hosted them before and they’ve always been good company and said they’d enjoyed the food.

We were texting earlier about something unrelated - she clearly had another conversation on the go as she sent a reply which was of no relevance to our conversation.

Her message said:
I can’t do Saturday I am afraid. At (my name)’s for dinner again. That reminds me to stock up on the Pepto for the next morning 😂

Would it be wrong of me to rescind the invite? We go to a lot of effort to host them and feel this is frankly insulting.

She's a nasty two-faced twunt and a snob, and both husbands sound like male chauvinists.
She can't even muster an apology? Then she can fuck off coming for dinner at yours ever again.

I'd also go out somewhere nice/with a genuine friend on the night and tell your husband you as the 'female' are leaving the 'males' to their little sportsball evening.

Good for you OP! Having said that, your husband and the friend’s husband are prize dicks!
I’d be so hurt that my husband didn’t appreciate how hurtful it was to read that message and is still happy to have them over, knowing full well how you’re feeling right now.
He’s a bigger problem than the shitty ‘friend’ I’d say. Is he usually a dismissive dick?

I’m still fummin that the game on Saturday is, in fact, a quarter final, and not a semi final. There hasn’t been sufficient acknowledgement yet that these things matter and the OP’s husband is an atrocious football fan.

i would wrap up a nice gift basket of aldi food ( all out of date and left out in the sun ) with a few bottles of pepto in their and diorheaha tablets and leave for your husband to hand to her if she comes

make sure there is a bug bow snd the tag say “ no need to fall out over this - enjoy !

leave the house snd go to a real friends house

Suggest you tell your dh to do one over to his mate's place on Saturday, therefore. No way would I be having even her DH in my house, given he's part of the conversation and hasn't been horrified by his very rude wife!

I don't know where you got what shop she goes to from that text.

I read the thread. You should try it some time.

I think I'd be just as pissed off about the misogynist attitudes of both of the husbands to decide that it's just petty women's stuff, rather than you being insulted and mocked.
I'd tell him that he has no loyalty and is a chauvinist

I agree with this.

I think this is a nice gesture and agree you shouldn’t fall out.
sorry, but if I got the shits after eating at someone’s house I would probably tell someone as I like to moan and it’s clearly come up in convo with whoever she told. She’s allowed to talk about her illness and make light of the experience with a friend.
if you dump her over this I think you’d lose out more than her. But Yanbu to never cook for her again.

I think she is trying to patch this up, she has offered an Olive branch, to bring you a take away.
I think at this point you are getting a bit OTT.
Both of them were unwell after their last visit, have you actually apologised for that either?

Indeed

That's really funny.

A ‘real friend’ is someone who would suffer in silence and never tell anyone in their life about being ill with foo poisoning? That’s ridiculous.

A really quick way to patch things up would be to apologise for the text and the criticism of where the Op shops.

Why should she accept the takeaway from this odious person ?
She might have spat in it to get her own back.

Yes, just shows what you know about football! I am a football fan and so understand what he means, you obviously don't,

I definitely wouldn't like my DH to be friends with a man who's wife proved to be so hurtful & disrespectful towards me. If the friends wife remained socially involved with my DH, even very occasionally meeting in a bar where my DH was there it would become me being treated as the outcast. No thank you. I would expect my DH to fully support my decision to distance myself from them both.

That's true.
I don't waste spend time watching football in pubs on 99" TV screens.

Also an excellent point 😄

"And I don't fall out with people readily - but there's a betrayal of trust there when she sent a mocking whatsapp message to a mutual friend that I wouldn't forgive or forget.)"

Id also be re evaluating my relationship with the mutual friend as it appears they feel comfortable enough with them to be gossiping and making hurtful comments in the first place.

it does

surprise that

the number of MN'ers who don't actually read all of the OP's posts and updates,
Surely, BEFORE adding a comment and to get the full picture, a pre-requisite as a bare minimum, is to get all the facts, imho.

Won’t be missing a World Cup semi final

Now who’s being dramatic? It’s not a semi final it’s a quarter final, and he’ll hardly be missing it if his buddy doesn’t come round.

I’d be tempted to say oh do stop being dramatic darling, I’m just not hosting that’s all, if you want to create a drama about the football you could always go round to the friend’s or find a pub to watch it in.