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To un-invite friend from dinner after she sent me message by mistake

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Dinnertext · 07/07/2026 22:10

I’m a long time lurker but have pulled on my big girl pants for my first ever post in AIBU!

We are hosting my friend and her husband on Saturday for dinner. We’ve hosted them before and they’ve always been good company and said they’d enjoyed the food.

We were texting earlier about something unrelated - she clearly had another conversation on the go as she sent a reply which was of no relevance to our conversation.

Her message said:
I can’t do Saturday I am afraid. At (my name)’s for dinner again. That reminds me to stock up on the Pepto for the next morning 😂

Would it be wrong of me to rescind the invite? We go to a lot of effort to host them and feel this is frankly insulting.

OP posts:
DollydaydreamTheThird · 07/07/2026 22:11

Does she not just mean because she'll be eating a lot/drinking lots of wine?? Are you sure its a dig? Xx

Besidemyselfwithworry · 07/07/2026 22:11

I’d screenshot this and send back to her and say “as you clearly don’t like my food the invite has been withdrawn”
leave it at that
watch her squirm

what a horrible person you don’t need her in your life.

MurunBuchstansangursCousinRossiter · 07/07/2026 22:12

Cheeky cow.

I would send her a blistering text back uninviting her.

Mollypolly2610 · 07/07/2026 22:12

Send it back to her and await her response

Lovelyview · 07/07/2026 22:12

Ouch. That's not kind. Does she drink a lot? She might be referring to a hangover rather than the food.

MrsArcher23 · 07/07/2026 22:12

Maybe she means the food is good but rich and she enjoys it so much, she makes a pig of herself and then suffers from indigestion?

Loubelou71 · 07/07/2026 22:12

Is it a dig at you or just a comment that she'll be overindulging? She might know she will enjoy herself and suffer after.

polkadotpig · 07/07/2026 22:13

Could she be paying you a compliment? Perhaps she knows she'll eat / drink too much because you are such good hosts?

Dinnertext · 07/07/2026 22:13

She doesn’t drink when they are here, she will be driving.

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sandalbed · 07/07/2026 22:13

Is if definitely a dig? If I kept getting the trots after eating at my friends I wouldn’t keep eating there.

Steeleydan · 07/07/2026 22:13

Besidemyselfwithworry · 07/07/2026 22:11

I’d screenshot this and send back to her and say “as you clearly don’t like my food the invite has been withdrawn”
leave it at that
watch her squirm

what a horrible person you don’t need her in your life.

Absolutely this 👌

Dinnertext · 07/07/2026 22:13

I have replied already with a ‘?’ - she has read it but not responded yet.

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Gardenisablooming · 07/07/2026 22:14

Shall I get some in for your save you popping out?
And leave it at that.

Let her bail out or explain..

SENsupportplease · 07/07/2026 22:14

Doesn’t it just refer to over indulging

sandalbed · 07/07/2026 22:14

by all means reply and ask her

MyChalfontsAreGivingMeHellToday · 07/07/2026 22:14

Maybe she gets heartburn? I have to OD on Bisodol if I go out to eat. It's not like she's saying she'd better line up the sick buckets is it?

Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 07/07/2026 22:14

The ? Is perfect. Interesting to see what she replies!

Campbellcarrotsoup · 07/07/2026 22:14

Yeah I don't think that's an insult it just means she'll be indulging - i say as a fellow pepto bismol user. She's far more likely to have ibs or heart burn. It's not something I need cause someone is a bad cook.

OneAndDon3 · 07/07/2026 22:14

The gut reaction would be to uninvite too.

Honestly though, how much do you like her? Would you miss her?

TheFlyingPenguin · 07/07/2026 22:15

Reply back asking if there are any food preferences she had or allergies you should be aware of.

therewasafishinthepercolator · 07/07/2026 22:15

MrsArcher23 · 07/07/2026 22:12

Maybe she means the food is good but rich and she enjoys it so much, she makes a pig of herself and then suffers from indigestion?

Yeah, that's the way I would have taken it.

MrTiddlesTheCat · 07/07/2026 22:15

Besidemyselfwithworry · 07/07/2026 22:11

I’d screenshot this and send back to her and say “as you clearly don’t like my food the invite has been withdrawn”
leave it at that
watch her squirm

what a horrible person you don’t need her in your life.

This.

AdjectiveColourNoun · 07/07/2026 22:15

Take is as a joke and don’t get dramatic about it. You could reply saying did you mean to send that to me with lots of 🤣🤣🤣🤣 to defuse any awkwardness. Life doesn’t have to be difficult.

Besidemyselfwithworry · 07/07/2026 22:15

OneAndDon3 · 07/07/2026 22:14

The gut reaction would be to uninvite too.

Honestly though, how much do you like her? Would you miss her?

The “gut” reaction 🤣

Pickledonions12 · 07/07/2026 22:15

MrsArcher23 · 07/07/2026 22:12

Maybe she means the food is good but rich and she enjoys it so much, she makes a pig of herself and then suffers from indigestion?

This

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