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HolyCheeses and Mary… the spreadsheet, the bullshit bingo and the aftermath. Part deux

368 replies

HolyCheeses · 22/04/2026 17:36

Was asked to start a thread.

started a thread.

OP posts:
VickyEadieofThigh · 07/07/2026 14:32

FindmypalNas · 07/07/2026 14:23

😆😆😆 love this.
Especially if the 10 page letter was the handwitten one.

THEY WERE ON A BREAK!

Was it both sides of the 10 pages, OP?

HolyCheeses · 07/07/2026 14:33

Beachtastic · 07/07/2026 14:03

Well done for dodging that bullet, but please be careful. Someone who still views you as a "prized possession" could be ruthlessly vengeful about having their favourite toy taken away.

He can’t hurt me.

my eyes are wide open.

but thank you for your post

OP posts:
HolyCheeses · 07/07/2026 14:36

AmazingSummer · 07/07/2026 14:22

Yes and mil threads are famous for this

Wait- what does this mean? I’m confused.

OP posts:
HolyCheeses · 07/07/2026 14:36

VickyEadieofThigh · 07/07/2026 14:32

THEY WERE ON A BREAK!

Was it both sides of the 10 pages, OP?

Yes!

OP posts:
FindmypalNas · 07/07/2026 14:37

VickyEadieofThigh · 07/07/2026 14:32

THEY WERE ON A BREAK!

Was it both sides of the 10 pages, OP?

😂Indeed! (he may actually be thinking that! #deluded)

That's a great question..! Imagine if it were.

@HolyCheeses , i am so glad that you could easily detangle yourself from him when he revealed his hidden self.

FindmypalNas · 07/07/2026 14:38

HolyCheeses · 07/07/2026 14:36

Yes!

It was??!! Was this the typed/printed or handwritten one?

HolyCheeses · 07/07/2026 14:45

FindmypalNas · 07/07/2026 14:38

It was??!! Was this the typed/printed or handwritten one?

Handwritten was both sides
This is going to sound terrible I can barely remember any of it

It was buzzing I didn’t really register then it left head space

The only one stuck was the possession paragraph. Ick.

OP posts:
HolyCheeses · 07/07/2026 14:47

FindmypalNas · 07/07/2026 14:37

😂Indeed! (he may actually be thinking that! #deluded)

That's a great question..! Imagine if it were.

@HolyCheeses , i am so glad that you could easily detangle yourself from him when he revealed his hidden self.

Hmm I have dreams about being in that house and things going terribly wrong - then I wake up so relieved

Gosh what a nightmare it would’ve been to extricate myself then.

Thank god for vipers!

OP posts:
Beachtastic · 07/07/2026 14:55

HolyCheeses · 07/07/2026 14:33

He can’t hurt me.

my eyes are wide open.

but thank you for your post

Oh I'm so pleased OP and well done for spotting his crafty wiles!

FindmypalNas · 07/07/2026 15:10

HolyCheeses · 07/07/2026 14:47

Hmm I have dreams about being in that house and things going terribly wrong - then I wake up so relieved

Gosh what a nightmare it would’ve been to extricate myself then.

Thank god for vipers!

😂
They have their uses sometimes, don't they?

RtHonLadyMuck · 07/07/2026 15:22

Thanks for the update @HolyCheeses It’s always nice to hear what’s happened. Glad you’re doing well x 💐

AcrossthePond55 · 07/07/2026 15:43

@HolyCheeses

Soooo forgive my (ancient) memory. Is he actually living in 'Casa Paradiso' now and managing to afford it all on his own? I'll say this for him, he certainly is persistent and delusional.

Glad things are going well for you. Long may it continue!

TheBlueKoala · 07/07/2026 15:50

@HolyCheeses it's so funny that he thinks that telling you that you're a "prized possession" will make you come running back to him😂.

HolyCheeses · 07/07/2026 17:45

AcrossthePond55 · 07/07/2026 15:43

@HolyCheeses

Soooo forgive my (ancient) memory. Is he actually living in 'Casa Paradiso' now and managing to afford it all on his own? I'll say this for him, he certainly is persistent and delusional.

Glad things are going well for you. Long may it continue!

I blocked on social media but I’m guessing so - that all is complete I mean.

Time will tell whether they can afford it all. Not my circus as the saying goes ☺️

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Needapadlockonmyfridge · 07/07/2026 17:48

@HolyCheeses how could you possibly resist him now?

Honestly he is a prize prick isn't he.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · Yesterday 07:31

I am shocked this is still going on. Do you need a cease and desist type letter?

Bombayss · Yesterday 12:08

It is a real male trait IMO, the inability to accept the word No.
He had a big plan and you were a part of it.

He simply cannot fathom that it is not going forward.

He sounds completely unstable and stuck.

I am so glad for you that you dodge such a nightmare scenario.

That mess could take years to extract yourself from if you had gone for it.

It never ceases to amaze me how focused older men are in getting a nurse with a purse.

My golf club is awash with stories, like a bingo card.

100% complete self interest and blindness to the fact that many solvent women having buried or divorced a partner, have zero interest in ever sharing space with a man again.

Enjoy that precious peace.

namechange62 · Today 09:50

I'm a follower who has read from the start.. and still cheering you on!

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