If you’ve had a successful pregnancy at 39, how?

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My husband and I have been trying to conceive our second for about a year now. We had DD at 36 and 38. It was a fairly easy pregnancy and we conceived on our second month of trying (although she was SGA…didn’t find that out until we tried to conceive #2). Fast forward 2 years, we figured since it was fairly easy the first time it would be this time too. We’ve been trying for a year which has resulted in two early losses, one chemical in December followed by a heart breaking missed miscarriage this month at 10 weeks. I’m about to turn 39 and am losing hope that our DD will ever have a sibling. Is it too late for us?

If you’ve had a baby at 39 or older, how did you manage? Was it natural or did you need IVF? Not sure we could afford it anyway, but I’m desperate not to go through this again.

Any advice greatly appreciated!

Sorry to hear this! ❤️ Did you have a c section with your DD? I know a few people who have had secondary infertility/miscarriages following scarring from them so it may be worth getting checked. It sounds like it’s not actually getting pregnant that’s a problem for you… have they carried out any tests following your miscarriages?

I had my fourth at age 39. I was supposed to be 40 but he arrived early! I thought I had secondary infertility with my third but conceived easily with my fourth. Apparently fertility can increase when you get near to perimenopause so maybe it was that.

Oh that’s interesting…DD’s birth did end in an emergency c-section. We haven’t had any checks but will definitely prioritise this, thanks!

I think the NHS are doing some standard checks on my last miscarriage but not sure they’ll do the advanced ones since our first miscarriage was a chemical pregnancy. Our MMC was just last week so we haven’t heard back yet.

I’m so sorry!

We’re also trying (I’m 38 now). I conceived at 33 and 35, both times first try. I had two healthy pregnancies and straightforward natural births.

I was really hoping trying for a third would be just as easy, but it seems I have been unrealistic about that. We tried this month and I got my period, so now I’m wondering if I was just very lucky before or if age is playing a bigger role this time. My husband is 44 now.
We’ve decided to give it six months. I don’t think I could go longer emotionally.

Are you considering IVF? As far as I know, you can't have it on NHS if you already have a child.

Hey,

I’m 36 and have been ttc a 2nd for 2 1/2 years now. It really does start to feel like the time’s ticking. I’ve got over the whole age gap thing now but the idea of never having another just makes me so sad. My husband has said from the off that we’ve got one healthy DD and we are not doing IVF. If it’s meant to be it’ll happen. I completely see where he’s coming from but it’s so hard to accept it might just be the 3 of us rattling around in our house.

Had my DD at 40 after 2 mc. And then issues hence DS at 44, one month off 45, after infertility and 3 mc. I truly didn’t believe I’d have him. We consulted IVF clinic but as I had low egg reserve by that point and was getting pregnant they said there was little benefit. I put a lot of work into optimising my health and was recommended the book it starts with the egg for optimum diet and supplements.

I’ve seen this recommended a few places. Might have to give it a go. Thanks!

I know exactly how you feel. I’m gutted to think we might be a 3 person family as I always thought there’d be a 4th. It also feels unfair on DD that she doesn’t get a sibling because we waited too long. I don’t think you should give up hope though! DH and I were 36 and 38 when we had our first so there’s still time left for you (and with any luck for me too…I hate how little control we have over this stuff!).

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time of it. I conceived my second at almost 39 pretty much straight away so it's definitely not too late.

It starts with the egg. Cut out all plastic and phathlate use. No more perfume, nail varnish, overly fragrance toiletries etc. Whole foods only. Coq10. Low stress!

Im 40 and pregnant. Ill be turning 41 when baby is born. In the past year had 3 loses, 1 mmc and 2 chemicals before this pregnancy.
I was 38 when i had my first baby, although he was ivf. All my pregnancies past year were natural , shockingly

To be fair it has been an enormously stressful year. Hopefully chilling out will help. I’ll also check out that book, thanks!

Congratulations on your rainbow baby! And so sorry to hear about your losses…it’s so hard. Did you do anything differently this time compared to your losses or when you did IVF?

Congratulations on your rainbow baby! And so sorry to hear about your losses…it’s so hard. Did you do anything differently this time compared to your losses or when you did IVF?

IVF and acupuncture

I had DS when I was 36 by emergency section. I had DD when I was 39 again by section. Became pregnant daily easily but did have one miscarriage between them. The second surgeon said my original c section scar had been an absolute mess with loads of adhesions (which is suspected given the pain it caused!). He cleaned it all up and gave me a lovely new scar. I hope that eases your mind about the effect of sections.

Everything in It Starts With The Egg. Weekly acupuncture for years before (had 4 IVF mcs before miracle natural baby). No stress prior to conception. Mostly organic diet. Running 3x per week and at BMI under 30 (I'm fat).

Took progesterone pessaries that I wasn't technically supposed to. Had thyroid level checked every four weeks.

This is only half of it, genuinely he's a miracle. I had low placenta, dodgy thyroid, stage IV endo, Hashimoto's, at one point I got pityriasis rosea. I still don't believe he made it here.

Two DDS, 11 mcs one SB then DS at 39.

I had my first at 39 and my second at 42. I had two miscarriages in between. No ivf etc. Conceived quickly with all of them but obviously keeping hold of them was an issue. Perimenopausal now at 48.

Not sure how many more miscarriages I would have coped with after 2.

Both of my children were born by c section. Makes me wonder about a previous comment.

Wishing you all the best.