44 and still broody! Will it ever go??

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Does it happen to anyone else? I have two young kids and I feel I’m not done yet however it’s just a lot to juggle with 3 kids. I hope this feeling will go.

I’m in exactly the same position. Kids are 4 and 2.5. Trying to convince my husband!!!…

Do it...otherwise you'll alway regret it.
Yeah hardwork but also the most wonderful thing in the world.

My kids are similar ages too!! When I was young I was neither in the mindset nor in the position to have children but now I discovered how much I love having them and raising them. It just gives me joy and I’d like to have another one to repeat this wonderful experience!

I find I get broody for a few days every month when my period is due, and then couple days later I’m so relieved I’m not pregs 😆 hormones are odd things!

This is terrible advice.

I'm 45 and just potty training my three year old. Definitely no broodiness here! Glad it's the last time I'm doing all this.

Mine stopped at about 45. Having another child would be my worst nightmare right now and I'm so glad I didn't have another.

I really think it’s just hormones and as soon as you hit peri menopause your body will not want any more. Thankfully for me as soon as I had my last child I knew I was done and have never wanted any more.

Aww I feel the same. Even though I didn’t become a mum until I was 40, it has changed my life in the best possible ways. It is my strongest sense of purpose and the most important thing to me. I think I’ve got one more in me. Is your husband / partner on board?

He is and he would love another one however we’re both quite rational people and we always calculate carefully every move. So we’re sort of debating every month whether to give a go.

I wouldn’t, they get very expensive as they get older. Just spent £400 on my two in 24 hours one needed new trainers, the other a new pair of glasses. 😭
not to mention what if they’re disabled or you end up with twins or worse? Triplets!

Nahh it's not at all. It's brilliant advice ☺️

You've just had the wrong children so far. You can borrow one of mine for the day, that'll put you off.

I got a cat just after my 40th birthday

Do you have any peri symptoms? I feel that cured my broodiness, while I still get the odd pang, I now see how much harder fatigue affects me. When I get irrationally ragey I think how would this be with a tiny one in the mix. I haven’t yet had any insomnia or strong MH disturbances but many of my friends have. I feel the change in me over one year is quite big, so who knows what is round the corner. I’m just too old. Am 44 too, and tried for a 3rd from 40-43 before it felt like time to accept. Plus my kids are amazing. I want to spend the next few years with them, not occupied and exhausted. It would have been lovely in other ways, but I can see the downsides more clearly now.

Can you afford 3 people to get university rent paid for all at similar times? If not… don’t do it.

@Eggybreadwithnuts Just flippantly - yeah go for it or you’ll regret it forever. No idea on housing situation, finances, overall health. Ignoring the fact that the odds of neurological deficits are significantly higher. And this is likely like a perimenopausal last hurrah of hormones. So many reasons not to do this.

But it isn’t the most wonderful thing in the world for a lot of people, is it ??

Took me to 50 and a Merina (sic) to stop feeling broody. Now I am 53 and have a 2 year old granddaughter and quite happy for her to go home as is her 10 year old Aunty.
No judgement here, I was terribly broody.

I had my last one just before I turned 44. No regrets.

I had huge broodiness in my early 40s. Now I'm a bit older I think, 'Thank god!' my hormones didn't trick me into another one when I was heading towards retirement. If my partner had been on board I absolutely would have done it but knowing what I know now about the exhaustion and hormonal chaos of menopause and ageing I'm so relieved I didn't.

My eldest has cerebral palsy and is improving greatly, and I love her dearly. She has taught me resilience and showed me that life can be unpredictable yet full of surprising progress. I used to believe life should be straightforward, but experiencing what happened to her taught me that how you handle traumatic situations matters. My daughter with CP is now a beautiful and thriving child; although she has delays, she is one of the sweetest, most beautiful souls you could meet. My youngest is a very intelligent and funny girl. Both of my girls are always smiling and a joy to be around. We faced some tough times early on with my eldest, but we managed to persevere and received plenty of support. We both work full-time, and a babysitter helps with pick-ups. I'm uncertain if I am perimenopausal, as I still feel much like I did when I was younger. My mother went into menopause at 54, so late. She once joked about this trend of discussing peri and menopause at 43, saying people might just have mental health issues and attribute them to menopause. I think I need to reflect more on the possibility of having a third child, and all the advice I received helped me think more deeply about it.

Oh it definitely goes. Was so so broody until maybe a year ago and now can't think of anything worse. I'm 46.

Just think about being 60 with a moody 16 year old going though GCSEs…., that should put anyone off.

You know you dont have to pay for uni and they might not all go