my cousin is having a big birthday coming and we are quite close. I caught up with her recently and she said she is not sure what she is doing as she is tired of planning her own parties. I had a lightbulb moment and thought why don’t I organise something, found a date that relatively everyone could make and then messaged her husband to plan a surprise party.
I told him I would sort out the cake and decorations and invites and nibbles but could he cover the cost of some of the food ( I am not working atm so wouldn’t be able to cover everything) he said he thought it was a great idea and he was happy to pay for everything ( i declined and said just food is fine)
A few days later my Aunt (cousins mum) calls me and says how dare I ask for money, if I am planning a party then I should cover everything. It’s not right to ask my cousins husband and my cousin would be upset. I was so taken aback I didn’t know what to say to her really. I said I was just trying to be thoughtful and was covering as much as I could and planning everything, plus hosting at my house!
I rang my husband upset and he said I should cancel the whole thing and tell her to organise it since she is so bothered!