AIBU to be upset by my physio’s comments about pregnancy and parenting?

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Was attending a physio today with my little girl who is two. I also had my 8 month old with me. I know the physio relatively well as she has been working with my little one for over a year. Today she pointed to my stomach and asked if I was expecting again. I responded with “did you mean to say that out loud” and she laughed it off and said something about it must have been the way I was standing. It’s not the first time she has made an out of line comment. Previously she questioned why my husband was taking my little girl to an appointment and not me, she made the comment “but you’re her mother”. For context I generally am the one that attends apps, but as my husband was off on that particular day we decided he would attend to save me needing time off work. Am I over reacting to be upset by this. Particularly today’s pregnancy comment? I am probably a little sensitive as obviously I have had two pregnancies pretty much back to back. But I’m a size 10/12…. And even so , I do t think it’s any of her business.

Perhaps she was just a bit careless about the pregnancy comment. You had two back to back she thought you might be game for another one.
Do you have a bit of a tum? I would have joked back - you need to give me some free physio!!

Find a new physio?

No filter that’s all. She’d be good on catchphrase, ‘say what you see!’

Perfect response.

Rude ! I’d find a new physio.

Even if I do have a bit of a tum…..I still don’t feel it’s justified. Would we comment if someone has a birthmark/ scar/ etc.

But to answer your question, yes, my tum isn’t quite flat as a pancake…. 🤣

She’s rude and unprofessional. YANBU. You don’t comment on people’s appearances end of story. People don’t even comment on weight loss these days because it’s regarded as rude.

Don't assume the worst. Maybe she was going to offer some Physio advice if you were. Were you holding your baby at the time? I find that used to make me look pregnant when I wasn't.

If you like her as a physio for your child I would overlook the comment. I think it's more important to have consistency in your child's care. Unfortunately we all have made comments that you cringe looking back on and I expect that this is the case

I would assume she only said it because you're slim and we're stood in a way to make it look like a bump. I think if she thought you were large she wouldn't say it. As in it was just a shape

I wouldn't be upset about the pregnancy question...mainly because I would have thought that was a question she had to ask (like the dentist whenever they do xrays) but I would have been annoyed at the why is the dad taking the DC to the appointment question!

I think the tum comment possibly comes from her concerns/training as a physio, maybe she spotted diastatis recti which in many people closes by 7 months post partum and some need help.

The second comment was weird and I would tell her this much.

Rude and unprofessional.

She sounds as blunt as a spoon and as socially aware as one too.

I'd drop her as physio tbh.

I have a dodgy back and often hold it. Several people have assumed I’m pregnant (I also walk a bit more carefully when in pain so potentially have a waddle on) I’m flattered because I’m 50!

PT here. Sounds like an unguarded remark. Your profile in the moment, as you're slim, might have created the impression. Lack of filter between brain and gob. I did it once in a social situation. Mortified!
I love the cartoon with the question 'when can you ask a woman if she is pregnant?' And there's profiles of women from 1st to 3rd trimester - the answer is NEVER. That is my policy since. 🫣

Re the other remark on you being the mum. I know in paediatric there's homework to be done by the carers between sessions, so consistency is desirable. Perhaps it came out wrong if she was expecting you.

I would comment on scars, unusual marks, gorgeous perfume, posture (good or bad) - on the patient. However, you are not the patient here. It was a mistake on her part.