AIBU to refuse a Year 9 staying up for the 1am match?

[BlackTulipss]

Is this unreasonable?
Apparently "every other mum" is letting their school year 9 kid watch the 1am match tonight and phone in sick to school tomorrow morning then go in at lunch.
I've said no to staying up to watch it. Starts at 1am, it will go on till 3:30am, or later if extra time!
DS has to get up at 6:30 for school.
DH says let him, keeps going on about once every 4 years experience, it's only 1 night, etc. And he says it will be the final England match - they'll be knocked out by Mexico tonight so there will be no other England games to watch after tonight.
DS badly needs his sleep and at 14 he still needs a solid 11 hours to function.
Is anyone else letting their DC watch it live tonight?
AIBU?

Were not "where"- been a long night..

England need something to match the Norway rowing

We Scots need not take part in this discussion...😟😂

Maybe it could be acting out the national sport - lining up at the job center to sign on.

You do know people are allowed to have an opinion?

In mine, the game was boring as Norway had all the possession but could barely get near Brazil’s box so there was so much passing at the back. So yeah, to me that’s a boring watch.

Haalands goals were great, and I said in an earlier post that after 70 mins it got a bit better.

Is that ok with you? 😂

Or passing out drunk on the grass. All fall to the ground in sync. 😂

Fair enough 😅 I just didn't understand the 'terrible' description.

So @BlackTulipss did DS watch the match

No.
I wouldn't allow him to watch it no matter how much he begged. I even sat outside his bedroom door all night to ensure he didn't leave his room to sneak out and watch it. I removed his phone and ipad from him overnight and locked them in a drawer so that he didn't watch it on screens whilst in bed. I hid the TV remote control somewhere he'd never find so that there was no possible way he could turn the TV on in the lounge even if I fell sound asleep whilst guarding his bedroom door.
It was an effort, I must admit. But these are the efforts required to maintain control over my DS at all times. After all, this is what I am; a controlling mother!

🙄

Oh gosh I hope this is sarcasm it was so amazing

I really hope this is just you being really sarcastic.

Well, you’re certainly not a comedian.

Say what you like on here, but I think in the next six months things are gonna be wildly different for you at home

I assume you are joking
i certainly hope so

Goodness people that are controlling don’t like it getting pointed out do they

I assume that’s sarcasm

don’t see the point in it

hopefully you did allow him

people have gone to a lot of effort giving you advice and you can’t give an honest response to what was the outcome, seems a bit mean.

Took me a couple of hours but I got there in the end! Did he enjoy it?

It really was. And the best bit was sharing our experiences afterwards with other people who also loved it. It was one of the best England matches I’ve ever seen. I hope the OP’s son did manage to watch and share the excitement with his friends the next day (well the same day I guess!).

What a ridiculous attempt at being funny/sarcastic.🙄

I read hope the OP was being funny/sarcastic. Otherwise it’s very disturbing behaviour on her part, as if true what would the OP have achieved?

OP you do come across as quite insecure - not controlling for the sake of control but because your DS seems to be the only one you can excercise the feeling of control over. Also you are not easy to have a conversation with...

After all - you did come here for an opinion, and after the YABU type of posts started piling up you turned defensive.
It's OK - you are the mother and ofcourse you know what is best for your kid, his patterns and routines - noone here can make a better judgement call on this topic than you.

But people were just trying to nudge you a bit to relax and let it go this one time - just for this boy - not to be the one at school tomorrow not having anything to say when most other kids are commenting on what turned out to be an amazing match!
Regardless of all your (absolutely unnecessary) explanations and sharing details around DS's sleeping habits - it is an absolute fact that being up for a few hours just once during a random night - won't do him any harm. As for the school clearly some would have called in sick, and some would be a little tired as your DS - so what... it's not like he would be the only one.

Btw - when you go on holidays do you also make sure you always get on early afternoon flights not to disturb his sleep? If not you should because this matter is clearly very important to you.

Anyway this post is coming from a person who had too often missed out on friends birthdays and celebrations as a kid (often being the only one in the class missing out!!), group teenagers' holidays, going out evenings as an older teen - all because my mother knew better than any other mother and was in her mind a "better mother" - more caring mother, more protective mother.

I now live thousand miles away from my family and while I maintain super regular contact with the rest of my family I can tell you that I never have an urge to call my mum, or talk to her, not much to talk about to begin with...there is just so much resentment. I do check in occasionally because other family members ask me to.
I was also on the surface a very successful kid, and always smiling.
Anyway good luck with your attitude, and I do hope the kid watched the match...

Is there anywhere you could buy a sense of humour near to where you live?